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writes:I need some advice in an urgent way. My life is in shambles. I wrote last March under the Family section under the title of Why am I the Family Villain? But I am not writing to complain about that any longer. I have been spending a lot of time back home, trying to get to know my mom, sister, grandma, and twin brothers from my mom's 2nd marriage. I hear my grandma telling my mom that she is a fool for letting me just stroll back into their lives. My mom tells her to shut up because if she loses me again, she might never see me again. So, attitudes run from not wanting me around to being terrified that I won't be. My little sister and I click and my brothers are precious. But mom and grandma?At the same time Daddy is pissed that I am here and that I made a B in one of my pre-med, calling it a family disgrace. This is the same guy who once returned a Fathers'Day essay to the "world's best dad" with corrections and edits and made me rewrite it.Daddy just cuts my heart out and shows it to me. I would have been better off years ago even if my mom paddled my ass on a schedule rather than have him treat me this way. Nothing pleases the man.I seem toxic to everyone. I have a boyfriend that I love and I have him screwing my brains out right now to the point that he's exhausted just so I can go somewhere else and try to forget. He thinks I should ditch my life here and we should just take off. But I ran away from my problems years ago when all I had to do was accept my mom's apology. But how do I fix my life now? Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (18 January 2016):
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (16 January 2016):
 How curious , OP. There's a question posted on DC on April 2nd, 2010 by a 23 y.o. under the title " I haven't forgiven my mother for grounding me when I was 12 ! "
She tells your same story, with slight variations in details ( punished at 12, instead than 10 )
But the funny thing is that she tells her story with your very same words !
" I thought I had the coolest mom a kid ever had ". " My mom took over coaching my basketball team ".
The dad too was the same type : brilliant ,educated guy, but nitpicky and anaffective.
Now, that poster can't be you because she says she is 23 then,in 2010, which would make her a bit older than you... right ?
But, either amazingly you have got yourself a spiritual doppelgang, an astral twin, who lived your same experiences, with the same cool basketball coaching mom .
Or, you are one of our regular DC " novelists " , who like to
practice their hand at creative writing by asking the Aunts' opinion about imaginary dilemmas.
Or, maybe, something in between- often recurrent posters have an issue that they can't / won't just spit straight out , and they feel they have to dress it up in symbols, with basically the same narrative where the chore is always the same, while the details ( places, ages, dates ) vary every time. But if these posters could find the courage to embrace their vulnerability and just spell out what they REALLY need help with, as sad or weird or embarassing as it may be, I trust that the Aunts and Uncles could actually be of some effective, practical assistence....
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