New here? Register in under one minute   Already a member? Login244945 questions, 1084256 answers  

  DearCupid.ORG relationship advice
  Got a relationship, dating, love or sex question? Ask for help!Search
 New Questions Answers . Most Discussed Viewed . Unanswered . Followups . Forums . Top agony aunts . About Us .  Articles  . Sitemap

How do I find out if the man I am attracted to is gay?

Tagged as: Gay relationships<< Previous question   Next question >>
Question - (26 August 2009) 5 Answers - (Newest, 11 September 2009)
A male United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I'm Gay and I am sexually attracted to a man, but I don't know if he is Gay.. How can I find out?

<-- Rate this Question

Reply to this Question


Share

Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question!

A male reader, karldlewis United Kingdom +, writes (11 September 2009):

I have to strongly agree with the previous two comments it is the only way to know for sure

<-- Rate this answer

A reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2009):

Ask him

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2009):

Can you ask one of his friends? I'm not sure if there are any typical signs other than perhaps chatting to him casually and see if he lets anything slip about his personal life?

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A male reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2009):

Well... as a heterosexual guy, I can usually spot homosexuals. My girlfriend is also very good at spotting the telltale signs. Here are a couple of signals we pick up on, some are more obvious than others:

1.) The classic hiss when speaking. The drawn out "s", often accompanied by over exaggerated hand gestures. And of course overly feminine mannerisms. Many gay men act more feminine than the girliest girl.

2.) Gay men lack the embarrassment gene. They can put their emotional self out there on display and not worry about what others think. Singing and dancing to their iPOD in public without caring about who stares at them.

3.) Gay men usually refer to themselves by their full name. I am not "Bob", "Bobby", or "Rob", I am "Robert". I am not "Bill" or "Will", I am "William". I am definitely not "Steeverino", I am "Stephen".

4.) Gay men have good fashion sense and know the names of designers, the names of perfume manufacturers, what hand bags are in style, etc.. Hetero guys don't know or care about that stuff.

5.) Gay men are usually good at dressing and matching socks with ties, etc..

6.) Gay men are usually very gossipy and know the latest celebrity news.

7.) A rainbow bumper sticker or rainbow window sticker on their car is their advertisement. Or perhaps other rainbow colored things like a wristband, belt, or other personal accessory.

8.) An affinity for show tunes and musicals.

9.) Older gay men love Barbara Streisand, Liza Minelli, Bette Midler and of course Judy Garland.

10.) They know what topic was on Oprah yesterday.

11.) They criticize others fashion sense (or lack thereof).

12.) That look of happy insanity in their eyes is also a sign.

13.) Picking lint off other guys clothes, and or fixing another guy's tie or adjusting a collar or lapel.

Let me know if you need more and I will write back.

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A male reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2009):

Has he had any girlfriends? - how does he look at you or interact with you? ...maybe get into a situation where its just yourself and him and find a way to ask him outright - ask him want his opinions about being gay are - suggest you both go check out a gay club - see how he reacts.

Does he know your gay? if so then he must be ok with it even if he isn't - or he might be bisexual or open minded - there are lots of ifs buts and maybes - send him a text - you only live once!!!

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

Add your answer to the question "How do I find out if the man I am attracted to is gay?"

Already have an account? Login first
Don't have an account? Register in under one minute and get your own agony aunt column - recommended!

All Content Copyright (C) DearCupid.ORG 2004-2008 - we actively monitor for copyright theft

0.0156558000016958!