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41-50,
*ruce lee
writes:I'm back. I have relatives, acquaintances, and friends who ask me inappropriate questions. They ask things like "Do you want a girlfriend?"Then if I say "not at the moment", they start to fire more questions at me.They ask if I'm gay, or why I don't want a girlfriend at the moment? Then when I explain to them that I don't want a girlfriend because I'm disfigured, they won't leave it alone.How does one fend off these kind of questions?And why do they keep asking the same question over and over again like a broken record?Am I being too sensitive? Should I just ignore them? Reply to this Question
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reader, xanthic  +, writes (7 February 2011):
 I don't think you're being too sensitive, some people (especially relatives) can be very nosy. They don't always mean to be prying, sometimes they just don't know what else to talk about. Many of my relatives are like this too, and never fail to ask how my love life is every time I see them.
In this situation you can do one of three things: lie and answer in a way that's less likely to make them ask more questions, give short and terse answers that amount to yes or no and hope they get the hint and change the subject, or change the subject yourself after answering with a short yes or no. If none of those work, simply say you're not comfortable discussing whatever the topic may be.
The bottom line is you shouldn't have to be put on the spot or explain yourself to anyone. Some might only be asking these questions to make friendly conversation, but that doesn't mean it's acceptable if it's making you feel uncomfortable. There's nothing wrong with politely setting boundaries.
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reader, knaixer  +, writes (7 February 2011):
 LOL, well... I guess it's kinda odd for a 30 yearsold guy to be so... independent. A guy that don't need gf to take care of him. Cuz, most people would try to find a girl and start a family at that age before it's too late... So yeah, I guess you are kinda odd in that sense. But seriously, there's nothing wrong with being single if you want to be. Just get a few girls' phone number and talk to a lot of girls. Those questions should disappear (since they know you still have some interest in a girl and not Gay XD)
Also... No, you are not being too sensitive.
and... Yes, you should ignore them, if you still choose to be single.
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