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classicfun8
writes:How do you know when the person whom you are dating is the one? I've heard that you "just know" when it's right. The reason I ask is because I've been in a relationship for almost 8 months now and I love him very much. However he is the first guy that i've ever dated. So how do I even know what love is? When I think about my life without him I get upset and sometimes break down and cry. But other times I kinda want to see what else is out there. We recently had this conversation and he knows there may come a time when I will want to see what else is out there, but I don't think he realizes that may be in the very near future. I love him don't get me wrong, but it's like I just finally got comfortable with my confidence and sexuality and I want to see if there is something else. He is literally everything I could ever want in a life long partner...but I feel like no one..well at least I...don't find their husbands in their first relationship. There are days when I look at him and feel like life can't get much better than this and feel completely content. Then there are other days when I don't feel that and I worry that that means I am just settling for someone. I'm really confused if you couldn't tell. Should I just relax and stop trying to analyze it? Or do you think I'm leading him on and should end it to pursue other relationships?
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reader, classicfun8 +, writes (18 March 2008):
classicfun8 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone! Your input has really helped me think about my issue. I think I'll just stop thinking about it for now and enjoy the incredible man I have in my life right now. It's really to soon to know if he is the one right now...he could be you never know. I think love is different for everyone and people should find comfort in that thought. I shouldn't ruin something so great for selfish reasons of exploring other options. I'm not ready for this to be over just yet. Thanks again!
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reader, lovingheart  +, writes (17 March 2008):
"What is love" - a good question! At the moment you are in the middle of your first romance and finding it very confusing. We've all been there at one time or another.
There have been many books and articles written on the subject. I just read one that may help you with your dilemna. This article is called "Am I in Love?" It explains some of the emotions we feel when we're in love etc. See:http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Pushpa_Pal_Singh
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reader, Bean317 +, writes (17 March 2008):
I think you're thinking about it too much. Would he be willing to take a short break...just kind of back away from eachother for a week or so. Don't necessarily date others but see how you do without him for a little while. Most guys aren't willing to wait while you got out and "test the waters". I know it doesn't make sense but when you know, you know. It is however easy to over think and listen to those cliche lines of advice like don't settle and date more. Ultimately its your life and your happiness...listen to your heart. It sounds like you have your mind made up that you love him but someone or something is influencing you to feel like you need to see if there's something more exciting.
The feeling could also be because its around the time your relationship is settling and becoming normal. It's no longer new and exciting with butterflies and perhaps you miss the excitement. No one can tell you what to do. Just think about why you feel this way and if it's worth losing him for a 'should'?
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reader, Somethingeasy +, writes (17 March 2008):
 I can tell you this much. You are not dating the one for you right now. There is no doubt in your mind when you have the one. It wont even be a question.
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reader, rcn + ♥, writes (17 March 2008):
 You're over analysing. Love is something that is special within its self. Trying to test the waters doesn't guarantee you find love like you have now. I'd say, once you find it don't let it go. You we're just lucky and finding it with this first one. Most people are not that lucky.
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