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iwantlove
writes:Ok. So, I have a situation. I'll just explain it a little. There is this guy, who I talk to a LOT (lets call him John) online. We used to go to the same school, but we never talked in real life, he was in the year above me. We used to talk all of the time online, and then that stopped for a few months, but recently we have started to talk again. We are perfect for each other, we get each other's sense of humour, we like similar music, and talking to him is so easy. I have always had strong feelings for him, and even left my boyfriend when John and I started to talk again, because all of my old feelings for him came back, and it wasnt fair on my boyfriend. John has admitted that he has feelings for me, but the problem is, he is incredibly shy in real life, so keeps on putting off meeting up with me. He has cancelled on me twice because of this, and I dont know what to do. I really really like him, and would love for something to happen between us, but I dont want to keep on getting messed around and hurt every time he cancels on me. I dont think I will ever feel this way about another person, none of my ex's seem to have the same effect on me as he does. I think he is worth the wait, but I just dont want to get hurt.Any idea's on what I should do? Thanks in advance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2007): Tell him that he's hurting you by doing this and tell him that you really want to meet up. I think here you might need to take control and, so to speak, wear the trousers in this relationship.I'm sure once you get together everything will be fine.Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2007): i love the internet but its always really pissed me off how people become really close when they talk online but you dont know what to say to them in real life.
however, it can be great for people who are shy in real life to put accross their perosnality without being embarressed, which i think is how it is with your guy.
maybe he doesn't want to meet up with you because you go so well together online and he doesn't want to ruin things if you are awkward when you meet in person
help him feel more confident about this by organising something really specific to do together that you'll both enjoy... for instance you say you like similar muic... then why not suggest going to a gig together... then you can both have fun TOGETHER but you dont even have to talk that much so he can feel more confident
gd luck with him
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