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*mandanash
writes:My boyfriend just broke up with me. He said because he's a bad person, and isn't 100% into the relationship and personally, don't think hes 100% into me. He started running around with other girls. Especially this one girl who is one of his only best friends. He lied to me about taking me somewhere when we were dating (by saying he wasn't going to go there any more) and turns out he's taking this other girl! It hurts to see him running around with her and other girls. He also txts her a lot and talks to her on facebook a lot from what i hear. I am jealous. She wrote a msg to him saying she's going to miss seeing him at school (he just graduated college), and she thinks of him as her brother. How do I get over all this jealously and hurt?
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reader, AlmostTexan  +, writes (6 July 2010):
Sometimes its not really jealousy. Its more the fact that he moved on and you did not. But then he moved on while he was still your boyfriend. Be glade its over. And yes, its hard to imagine now, but in time you will see this as a blessing. You did not married him and had kids.
Good luck to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2010): You deserve someone who is 100% into you so now that he is gone, you have the opportunity to meet such a person.The woman he is running round with is getting his attention at the moment but it sounds like one day she will be in the same position as you. Once a liar and cheat, always a liar and cheat in general.Try to divert your attention to other things in your life. Ignore what he is doing and ask other people not to talk about him. Avoid going anywhere you might see him. Throw away and reminders you have of him. Each time you find yourself thinking of him, find something else to do, ring someone and ask how they are and don't talk about him. Eventually you will get over him and be open to something better.If this has hurt your self-esteem, read some books about self-esteem or go on some sites about it.Good luck. You will get over him.
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reader, Spades +, writes (6 July 2010):
 Move on with your life. Of course it hurts, it would hurt anyone.
The best thing you can do here is continue your life, keep yourself busy doing things you enjoy.
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reader, Manduh75 +, writes (6 July 2010):
 Jealousy is a very sucky emotion. It happens to everyone, and I am affected by it too. Guys will just try to make you jealous on purpose because he knows it will get to you. All you need to do is not show him that it bothers you, and eventually he will stop. Just wait until someone special comes into your life... you will put him in the back of your head and forget all about that jealousy. If she thinks of him as a brother then maybe that is a good thing...I don't think someone would want to date their brother. I am kind of in the same situation. I seem to find that I feel better when I am with my best friend. He is always there and gives me good advice, he kind of makes me forget about everything and makes me have fun. When I get home and I'm laying in bed thinking... that is when I feel the worst. Try not to think bout it, learn to move on. Even though it is extremely hard to do. Find your self a new man and start living!!!!! Maybe he will be jealous of you!! (even though he wont let you know that). Have fun in life... explore other guys. I hope this helps a little bit. Let me know how things work out. Good luck!! =]
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