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How do I deal with my crazy neighbor?

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Question - (26 July 2010) 7 Answers - (Newest, 27 July 2010)
A male United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

why is he (my neighbour) a complete psycho

ok guys heres my story .

i have a nasty neighbour who shouts abuse and like intimidates , bad mouths me and my family .

it all began before i was born . basically he was rascist towards are indian neighbour and my farther stuck up for him and like me and my sisters used to do like a pagent thing and we got an ornoment - next thing Chris (nasty neighbour) barges onto our land shouts and threatens my farther over it .

also what dosnt make things easy is that i suffer from ADHD and an anxiety disorder . i mean over the years me and my family have had arguments - every family has problems ! . Chris used to make his children stare at us .

he shouts abuse , tries to knock my farther off his bike with his van and shouts abuse at me - and yet do i do this to his family no ! what makes me really upset is that i park my car on our garden - because a dent appeared with white scrathes on my car (chris drives a white van ) and like other mysteriouse marks have shown up on my car and my parents car . Chris thinks his a cut above people because he has money however underneath he is just really scummy ! i dont know how much more i can take ! he even stares out his window at me when i go out and come back home .

any suggestions would be helpfull

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A female reader, MonksDaBomb United States +, writes (27 July 2010):

MonksDaBomb agony auntI'd call the police, but who knows what happens. My grandparents live with a real jerk, similar to your neighbor, they called the police and the crazy woman BIT the policeman! For whatever reason, they didn't send her off to jail....probably scared witless.....

But seriously, call the police! And videotape your neighbor doing these things as evidence.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2010):

Video tape this nut case, over a good period of time. Build up evidence and then show it to the police. Don't let him see you video taping him, or he'll likely change the way he behaves. Consider buying a small recorder and get audio when you can.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2010):

Look, you should either move or sue him or take it to him. Seriously, you don't have to take that racist sh*t's attitude.

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A female reader, krunkqueen  +, writes (26 July 2010):

call the police !!

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A female reader, Kayl 25 United Kingdom +, writes (26 July 2010):

Wow this guy sounds nasty, i guesd moving home isnt an option? Well in that case keep a diary of all the abuse you get off this guy. Keep it daily and tjen pass it onto the police, if this guy lives in a council property also pass this diary onto the housing association and they could take steps to evict him. I have been in this situation twice and we just moved house both timed but why should they win? Report them and make sure the police/housing knows the seriousness of your situation

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A female reader, DrPsych United Kingdom +, writes (26 July 2010):

DrPsych agony auntHello, the law enforcement agencies should take an allegation of racially motivated harassment very seriously. Your family could go to court to seek an injunction against this man coming onto your land or approaching any of your family members. He is a bully and the only way for the problem to go away is to stand up to him. I am not suggesting a punch up over the garden gate. I do think that if your family take a firm stance against him by contacting the police each and every time he does something, as well as looking at your legal options then it may put an end to things. The police will no doubt tell you that evidence is required to support a claim of harassment. Therefore it would be helpful if you could discretely video or audio tape any abusive incidents. You need to take care when doing so however. You cannot have a video camera pointed at his front door waiting for trouble...that would be an invasion of his privacy. But if he is rude and abusive in public places or on your land then it would make good documented evidence for the courts who should then rule in your favour.

If your neighbour is a rich man, he will not wish to end up in court paying fines etc. The alternative is to seek somewhere else to live, but I appreciate that may be difficult in the economic times that we live in.

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A female reader, LovePanda United States +, writes (26 July 2010):

LovePanda agony auntYou need to press charges against this man. He's harrasing you and your family, destroying your private property, and just being a scum bag. Call the police, call a lawyer, call someone. You have rights!

I hope this helps. Good luck!

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