How do I cope with him not wanting me?

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Question - (5 April 2012)

2 Answers - (Newest, 6 April 2012)

A female age 26-29, anonymous writes:

Hello everyone :)

So there is this boy

He is one year older than me

And he is handsome

To the most of the girls at my school incuding me

And I used to really like this kid

And I told him because I just needed to let it off my chest (it was eating away at me)

He let me down very easy and told me that we could be friends

But he does not really treat me like an actual friend

When I talk to him about stuff he looks past me like he is not listening

Or if we are in a group and I ask him something or joke with him he doesn't respond much

Kinda acts like I'm not there sometimes

And yet when he is with other girls he talks to them and pays attention to them and what I've noticed is that all of these girls are super pretty and they are skinny.

I am a curvy girl

And short as well

So it makes kinda sad because I am starting to think that this dude is only interested in hanging out with hot/ skinny girls

I talk to these girls too and they are very nice to me

They actually treat me like a friend but it still is unsettling to me even though I shouldn't be worried about it

Like I've already gotten over the fact that he doesn't like me that way but I suppose I don't know how to cope with feelings of not being wanted around or being treated like I do not exist

How do I do this?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2012):

Just because someone doesn't want to be with you in a romantic way doesn't mean they don't like you as a friend.

I might seam to be ignoring you because he doesn't want to lead you on or for you to think he's leading you on.

Just because he talks to other girls doesn't mean he likes them in a romantic way!

I really don't know what else I can say to be honest except that it won't hurt forever.

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A female reader, boo22 +, writes (6 April 2012):

Sorry you're going through this right now.

Things are awkward between the two of you at the moment but this will pass in time.

Things were fine between you two until you told him how you feel about him.

As soon as you REALLY don't care about him that way any more, the relationship you have with him will change with you.

He seems shallow to me, you can do a lot better hun xxx

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