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writes:Broke up with girl 5 months ago. she dumped me. was with her 6 years. heart breaking.she contacted me every 2 weeks or so. how are you etc etc etc. ive only started to feel bit better lately. still miss her so much but I'm not in as low mood as before.i feel i need to stop all contact to heal properly.her sister still contacts me odd times which holds me back. she nice. i don't want to be rude but opens up wounds. i feel grand most time then when someone tells me they saw her etc it brings it all back,i'm def improving but need advice. how do i push on through this phase of recovery? Reply to this Question
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reader, billy anderson +, writes (1 April 2011):
billy anderson is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for advice guys. thing is i find hard to tell someone to not contact me. not in my nature.i think she still contacts me as she feels guilty about hurting me. i think thius makes her feel better so she does it. im too nice. should prob tell her and family to piss off and leave me alone. prob true that nice guys finish last.thanks for advice again. i am improving and will win !!!!
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reader, coolbeans  +, writes (1 April 2011):
 I agree with perfect, stopping all contact with her and her family might be best for you right now. It sounds like you are all on good terms so I'm sure they would understand if you simply said you need some time to yourself and would call them next. Then you can call whenever you feel ready. You're not being rude, you're healing.Take up a new hobby!
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reader, perfectdovez12 +, writes (1 April 2011):
 A year ago i broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years. I know its not 6 but it still hurts. It took me about 6 months to feel ok about talking about him. I stopped all communication with him and his family right after. He wouldnt stop texting and calling me so i changed my number and gave it to only my friends and family. I am determined that you cannot heal unless you surround yourself with people that dont remind you of that person. Also get out, make new friends, and go new places. I made all new friends and got a new job away from the area i went to high school at because he was my high school "sweetheart." Anyway, i would just say to try to maybe even date around? i know it hurts but it will get better! good luck :)
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