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writes: Hello,I am a 23 year old female and my boyfriend is 26. Recently I feel like my boyfriend has been acting strange. I have noticed some changes. He is a really nice guy and good to me and my family. He is also good with his family as well. A little fact about me that is important, I was raped at the age of 14 and I met my boyfriend when we were still in high school. I did not immediately date him until I was 17. Anyway, recently, he has been having these strange fantasies such as handcuffing me, making love to me after a drink, and roleplaying. I didn’t think too much of them at first as we have been experimenting for almost two years recently. Today, he asked if I thought he would change and become a pedophile or rapist. Given his fantasies, I didn’t know how to feel about that question but I reassured him that he will stay as the good and kind-hearted guy that I know. We have also been talking about moving to a house and getting married. I am sometimes anxious about the future because, what if he does change? How do I go about communicating to him regarding these fears? Reply to this Question
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reader, roadman123  +, writes (11 October 2019):
i think your boyfriend is watching too much porn. there are alot of clips in those sites where the woman is playing a rape victim fighting the guy off but the guy is too strong for her and she gives in and starts to enjoy the roughness even begging for more.
the pedophile thing, i dunno about that one.
he's 26 which is a normal age to be watching all these porn sites.
i wouldnt worry too much about it.
keep him in his place if he knows what's good for him lol.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (6 September 2019):
 Did you ask him WHY he is worried about those things?
Being a a pedophile or rapist are two VERY specific thing. I don't think anyone CHANGES into being a pedophile. Either someone has a sexual preference for children or they don't. And either someone think that rape is OK morally or they don't. I can't see how someone all of a sudden will think rape is OK.
If part of the role play is "geared" towards you "playing" a kid or pretend to be raped... I think you BOTH need some serious help.
I would dig a LOT further before any kind of moving in together or marriage. And I might also consider suggesting that he TALKS to someone professional about this.
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