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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hello. I'm in need of some advice here! My boyfriend and have been dating for a month, which is a pretty short time. I just don't feel attracted to him, no "spark". I've felt a spark when kissing my other ex-boyfriends...not my current one. I feel like he is smothering me too; he is constantly texting me and at school if I don't see him between classes, he questions me about where I was and why he didn't see me. He is WAY too obsessive and I just don't think I can do this anymore. He likes me way more than I like him. How do I break up with him, without hurting his feelings too much? What should I say? I want to breakup with him tomorrow.
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reader, visione +, writes (2 February 2010):
 As long as you aren't rude or insensitive, or break up through IM/text/email, you'll be fine. There is no real way to break up without hurting someone, especially if they are the one who likes you a lot. Just be gentle and appreciative of the time you've spent together so far. You can still remain friends (considering you only dated for a month) but I wouldn't recommend it until after a period of no contact so he can sort through his feelings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2010): I don't think there is any easy way to break up with someone! It sounds like you have definitely made your mind up though, so be brave! You can do it!
I think you should try and keep it simple. Try something like, "You're a really nice person, but I just don't want a relationship. I've enjoyed our time together, and hope you have too, but it's not working for me." ...Something like that, maybe? Just an idea anyway!
I would advise against saying you could remain friends, as that leaves a lot of confusion and threads hanging. You don't need to really explain your decision, just be as straight with him as you can. He may be upset, but if you don't want to be with him it is best for you to be honest, and not stay with him out of guilt. He will move on, honestly. It will be okay. Good luck, I'll be thinking about you. x
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reader, junebug81409 +, writes (2 February 2010):
Just tell him the truth.if u think that will hurt him then tell him u have family issues and should be in a relationship at this point.tell him your sorry and dont wanna hurt his feelings and u want him in ur life but not dating.i hope i helped.good luck.
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