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writes:ok i have been taking the birth control pill but recently found out im pregnant which proves the pill doesnt always work. but the thing is, my boyfriend knows ive been taking the pill and not sure how to tell him im expecting his child. his ex is expecting his 4th child and shes around 4 1/2 months gone.now im pregnant with his 5th. how can i possibly beak the news to him?also my sister has just had a baby girl 4weeks ago (which everyone is happy about). but all my family keep telling me is not to be so silly and make the same mistake but it just happend. i was being very responsible and taking precautions but they failed.abortion is murder to me. and my boyfriends family think it is aswell but how do i tell them and especially my own family.they are going to be so dissapointed in me and really angry. im absolouty petrified that they are going to get aggressive towards me and my boyfriend and i'm worried about his reaction.im 18 aswell but just very very very scared
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reader, lexilou +, writes (27 July 2008):
 It doesnt matter now how it happened. There is a little child on the way and you need all the support and help you can get. The only thing to do is to talk to them and let them know how you are feeling right now. The boyfriend might be overwhelmed a bit but he will show his true colours and either support you or run a mile but if you want to keep the baby then that is the way it has to be. I wish you luck and hope your family will be there for you x
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reader, Smiles  + ♥, writes (26 July 2008):
 Vow, I don't know how old you are; if you can manage to support this child on your own; as if this guy has got so many children already and over and above your unborn child another one onit's way; vow, I don't know if you will be able to rely on much support from him; being it financial or emotional; I think you will have to "take stock" and be sure that you can COPE with this situation on your own; BUT I don't think you can count on him;
I suggest you talk to him and explain the situation; the sooner the better; delaying it makes it more difficult and is creating extra stress to you; which is not good in your pregnant situation; I suggest you do not expect him to "pop" the bubbly from happiness; ZBUt get it over and done with;
Then you can MOVE ON and concentrate on what is best for you and your unborn child; it is a long and tough road ahead BUT if you know what you want and are determined to keep your baby; I am sure you will find ways and means to overcome the problems; you need lots of rest now; try to minimise the stress;
You can talk to us anytime; take good care of yourself and your unbotn baby; no matter what this guy thinks or what he has to say; think about yourself; I suggest he should go for a vasectomy; at least that way he will not have to be liable for anymore maintenance; BE STRONG;
Best wishes and lots of SMILES
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reader, rcn  + ♥, writes (26 July 2008):
 All I have to add is it is scary. I have 4 children. Believe me not all planned, but all loved. My parents weren't too happy at first, but they love their grandchildren and do quite a bit for them.
It sounds like additional precautions are needed. Has 3 and a 4th and 5th on the way. I think he's a bit fertile. With that, if you don't want the 6th + on the way after this birth, use an extremely high level of protection, and not just one method.
I will say congradulations to you and your boyfriend. I believe children are a true blessing, planned or not. Take care.
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (26 July 2008):
 of course the pill doesnt always work their is always that percentage. more so if your ill and on penicillin..thats why gps try and advise you on using condoms too..theirs no guarantee how people will take the news but its something you have to give time.. i know your really scared but their are people out their who will be supportive for you..you have to tell them sooner than later but i would tell your boyfriend first sit him down and tell him the news..he may take it well or take it bad..then i would tell my parents..but tell them that you are scared you took precautions and it failed..and that you would like support from your family and bf you know its a shock but your feeling unsure and scared and want help..they may be angry but im sure with time they will learn to get over it and help you..but if they are angry then you will have to just take it on the chin and say that you will be responsible and raise the child as best as you can and you would like it with their support.. thats my opinion hope that helps aphex x big hugs x
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