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writes:Well it hasn't worked being open an honest in my relationships. I tell people to act like you don't care, don't call them or text; let them do it. Act like you always got things to do if they say they missed you, don't say it back. I know its playing a game but i don't want to do it, but it seems like if you don't care they like you more. I know cause when i don't care that much for some one they seem to like me more, but its hard to do when you think that person is the one you been waiting for. I come straight out an tell them i don't want them to be my girlfriend, then they want me more, so am stuck.So do i act like i don't care that much, the next time? I think i have met a keeper, it seems they like it, but if she is a keeper, i want to treat her, like she is the only girl for me. Maybe this is karma biting me in the ass, for always treating them so good.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 August 2016):
 My guess is that you are going for the wrong type of girl who likes to play hard to get, not all women are like that, and some do like to be told where they stand and that they are wanted. So yes my guess is that these games work for you because of the type of women you are playing them on. My advice is be yourself to this woman and hopefully she really is the right one for you. Treat her well.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (11 August 2016):
 These "games" that you believe should be played...... they're NOT the way to a suitable, satisfactory and equal relationship..... They're games, pure and simply....
BE YOURSELF!!! ..... and if that doesn't bring you and some prospective guy closer.... then it wasn't meant to be.
The "problem" with "games" is that you can never be sure when the game/rules are on....and when they're not... and it's hard to keep track....
Good luck...
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (11 August 2016):
 You ask, "how do I behave with the one I want"?
You should behave with the one you want the same way we hope other people will behave with us, respectfully and honestly. If people, and not just potential partners, don't treat us respectfully and honestly then we should step back and perhaps look elsewhere for a partner.
In very new relationships it is better to take things slowly, to accept that not everybody has the same idea of what a relationship should consist of, but get to know each other before making statements of undying love or grand romantic gestures.
Remember the old days when people would date for months on end before getting into bed with each other, those courtships gave people a chance to get to know each other well, likes and dislikes, to see how we both behaved in certain situations and a chance to determine if the other truly was "the one" without sex getting in the way and muddying the waters.
Hold off on treating women like they are the only one for a few months, get to know them first, be with them in different situations and as you get to know them better you will be able to determine if she really is the one, or not.
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