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writes:How do I ask out a shy girl? I 'arranged' to meet her however there's no set time or place. How do I get a time out of her so we can meet up and get to know each other?I don't know her very well and I don't want her to feel intimidated, i'm a little older and outgoing whereas she's quite timid and shy.Help me agony aunts! :)
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reader, Blod +, writes (12 May 2011):
 I think the best thing would be to make her feel at ease before asking her. Talk to her for a bit first so that she's a bit more relaxed around you and then bring it up in conversation. Asking her straight out could throw her so she might be a bit abrupt answering. Obviously show that you're keen to meet her, but don't make it too much of a big deal. It'd make her more nervous.
I agree that you should choose somewhere quiet where she feels comfortable. Just go somewhere simple like a coffee shop or park. The more relaxed she feels, the more likely she'll open up to you more. Just be yourself around her and keep it natural.
Good luck!
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reader, Gherkinsaregrim  +, writes (12 May 2011):
Well if she is shy and hasn't suggested a time then maybe ou should ask 'are you free at ____?'.
I think your best move is take it slow, you want her to open up to you before you enter a relationship because you don't want to have to deal with her suddenly changing into a new person suddenly invade this is not the person you like.
Good luck with the meeting up :)
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reader, Abella  +, writes (12 May 2011):
 hi,
keep it low key and natural to start off. You know her name I hope? If not find it out.
When you see her next look into her eyes, smile, and suggest, 'we can't keep meeting like this (say her name), I'd like to take you out to coffee. How does 1pm tomorrow at ...... sound to you?'
Choose a nice quiet nearby place with
good coffee.
If that is not convenient choose another time and date and place. And ask again, with same smile and good grace.
Let her know when you do sit down with her that you would 'like to know all about her'
As she is shy you will need to draw her out with open questions.
Good luck.
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