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How do I ask my new girlfriend to lick and finger my ass?

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Question - (22 March 2011) 8 Answers - (Newest, 18 April 2011)
A age 30-35, anonymous writes:

About a year ago, for the first time i got a prostitute. She said she would do anything. I always wanted a girl to lick my ass, so i asked and she did. Since then i have stimulated my ass as much as possible, by stroking around it and even putting my finger up.

Now i have a girlfriend. I really want her to lick me and finger me but im to scared and embarrased to ask incase she freaks. Is this weird and how do you think she'll respond if i do tell her.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2011):

Sorry Mishmash, that is not factual. THe anus is not teeming with E.coli bacteria, and unless it comes directly in contact with the bloodstream, it is unlikely to cause an infection with skin-to-skin contact in healthy people. Licking is not a guarantee of getting a disease. However, there are bacteria back there, so it is a good idea to be clean.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2011):

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thanks for your help. i introduced it to my gf and she was fine with the fingering (as lond as she wears a rubber glove) but has refused to lick. im happy with that.

THANK U

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2011):

You might bring it up with her in passing (out of bed) just to guage how she might take it.

How do you go about "asking" her in the moment? I'm all for communication and being direct during sex, but sometimes you don't want to make a Q and A session out of it. The one thing about sex is that it does have a bit of a monkey-see-monkey-do dynamic. My advice is to do it to her (or try anyway) and see how she responds.

If she freaks out, you have your answer.

If she responds positively, suggest she do it to you too.

I draw a line at kissing assholes...sorry...but you pretty much guarantee getting e.coli poisoning that way. Please wash your hands before and after. Good luck.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (22 March 2011):

Honeypie agony auntWell I guess it comes down to a few things. How long have you two been together? How adventurous is she sexually? How well do the two of you communicate about sex? Does she know about your experience wit ha prostitute?

Personally, that would be a no-go for me, doesn't mean every other female would say no...

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2011):

Ummm my suggestion is to subtly hint at it. Maybe when youre making out gently draw her hand towards her ass. Stuff like that maybe stroking hers suggestively too? dunno!

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (22 March 2011):

eyeswideopen agony auntBe prepared for a freaked out girlfriend.

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A female reader, kirra07 Canada +, writes (22 March 2011):

How long have you 2 been together? Better give it some time for you to bond and get comfortable with each other before surprising her with this. Also, it would probably be better if you eased into it with other explorations first. For example, finger her ass first, maybe have anal with her. See how she reacts to that before asking her to do that to you.

Honestly, it would really depend on what kind of person she is to determine how she would react. Maybe she's done it before and it wouldn't even phase her. On the other hand, maybe she's never thought that guys can like that and it might gross her out. Generally the more open and adventurous in the bedroom you are, the less likely it will surprise her or gross her out. So experiment more, and then when the 2 of you are confessing things that turn you on, tell her this and hopefully she will at least be open to trying it because you like it.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2011):

Its certainly unusual, but not unheard of. You say 'now i've got a girlfriend', as though you have only just got into this relationship. I wouldn't go springing something like that on your new girlfriend immediately! If I were in your position, i'd just start out by making sure you have a varied sex life, be experimental. You might find that once she knows you're up for trying new things, she does it anyway, and if not, atleast by that point you'll know each other well enough and be confident enough to suggest it.

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