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writes:I have been dating someone for four months now and I do not know how to bring up sex to her. I do not want to pressure anything but I just want to bring it up as a possibility for the near future?Any help would be much appreciated. Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2008): Well, how about, "I feel that at this stage we're really comfortable with each other and grown up enough to talk about this - I'd like to increase the physical side of our relationship, because I love you, and when you're ready, I would like to make love. Right now, I just want to talk about it, so I know how you feel and I can respect your limits, and we can share any concerns we have."Or some variation thereof. Sex is a big deal for girls because of the possibility of pregnancy and it is theorized that girls invest more in sexual activity than guys; so making sure she knows you won't push her, and that you're mature enough to know about protection, will be very reassuring for your girlfriend. She'll know she has a good guy who loves her.
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reader, Helpful Stranger  +, writes (14 May 2008):
 Tell her that you love her, and that you're enjoying the time that you're spending together. Hopefully she'll say something quite similar back to you, and then calmly suggest taking your relationship a step further. Talk her through how you feel about her, and that you don't want to pressure her into anything, but you think that it's time that you take a step forward in your relationship. She can't over-react, as long as you keep your cool and always show love and affection as you talk to her about it.
Good luck =)
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