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How can we make losing our virginities REALLY special?

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Question - (7 March 2008) 10 Answers - (Newest, 27 March 2008)
A age 30-35, anonymous writes:

hey, I've being with my boyfriend now for 11 months, it's our year aniversery in 3 weeks and we are planning on losing our virginities to each other on the date we got together. He is 16 and I am 15, 16 in april, and i think looosing our virginities to each other is a great idea, we've spoke about it a lot but put it off as we havn't been ready, now i do feel ready and so does he. but i was wondering does anyone know what we could before it happens, i mean like what should we do, craigs says that we should take a nice long bath and relax, he says that he will be very gentle and if i wasnt comfortable then he would pull out straight away, does anyone know any good foreplay to make it easier, and why is he making it all out to be a big deal for me. Isn't it special to him too? does anyone know how we could make it really special! thanks for any repiles

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2008):

i kno losing your virginity is a huge deal ive had girls give to me like they are candy ... i kno wat u think im the player type not at all and we all make mistakes nd we learn from them i had sex at a early age but im not gonna say wat age cuz yea just say it was early im 17 now nd despite the fact i dont kno shit yet like i havent lived life to have a vast cerebral of knowledge but if ive learned 1 thing is not to regret wat u choose to do if u do or dont thats your choice dont let others make that choice for you cuz its never gonna be you if u do ... just follow your heart nd dont fall for the lies some guys will tell u to get in your pants * trust me i was one of them* nd if it donesnt happen see if in a few more months u still want to

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2008):

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thanks for the answers, although i do know that he IS a virgin and it was both of us that want to loose it. we both thought of it and we both love each other, he wouldnt lie to him about such a thing, he knows i've had quite a bad past and he wants it to be special. thanks again anyway.

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A female reader, thatgothgirl20 United States +, writes (8 March 2008):

thatgothgirl20 agony auntOf course he acts like it's something big for you. He probably isn't a virgin himself. I think that he is lying to you. Who came up with this "losing virginities" idea? You or him? I know how to make it really special-wait until marriage!!!

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A male reader, Uncle Trev United Kingdom +, writes (8 March 2008):

In your shoes I would not set a date and count down to 'let's do it day'.

You will put untold pressure on the situation and whatever happens will not be natural at all.

You say your anniversary is in three weeks time and your 16th birthday is in April. I cannot help notice that these two dates seem pretty close so why not wait until you are both 16 and at least then everything is legal. For one it removes any guilt from thew scenario.

Just make sure that you have protection and just play it naturally. If it happens just let it happen, let it happen naturally and then it will feel right. Something like this is far too important to both of you to set a date on it. It needs to occur as a path of nature not as a task against the clock or the calender.

As for if you are ready - nobody here has the right to tell you this - only you two could possibly know the answer to this.

When you are both ready and know that you are just do what feels right and it inevitably will be.

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A female reader, Fairy_Lu United Kingdom +, writes (7 March 2008):

Fairy_Lu agony auntYour asking for tips? You want our advice? You sure your ready? This is an amazing site and we all do our best to help when we can but sometimes the answers are found in your hearty and in your soul and also all over the net, and if you were both really ready you wouldnt need to ask us, i bet many people around the world have done it without asking for advice and thats because they were ready and new exactly what they wanted, you shouldnt plan sex it just makes you feel uncomfortable and nervous it should be spontaneous when you can honsetly say when your laying next to the one you love "right now im ready in this moment im going to give myself to you" not "well its been three weeks shall we do it at yours or mine?", look i know he is 16 and your almost 16 so in britain it is legal but it doesnt mean you have to do it, wait for the perfect momemnt when in your heart you know its right.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2008):

How about waiting 3 more years? I'll give you both $10,000

american dollars if you both wait 3 years before you lose your virginity. I know you love each other and you want to make this very special, so wait 3 more years and it will be very very special for you both.

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A female reader, shaboozie United States +, writes (7 March 2008):

I think you guys really arent ready beacause if you were then it would just happen in the heat of the moment. If you really have to think that much about it then you are scared. You are worried about makin it not so painful, and taking baths so that it wont be so bad. That being said you tell e if your ready you just said its gonna be badyourself you guys need to do a little more growing before you make a huge mistake that you will regret for the rest of your life.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2008):

Why not ask your mum for some advice for your first time, and he could ask his dad?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2008):

I'm sorry but you say you're ready. You THINK you're ready. You're underage, meaning having sex is against the law, and although I'm impressed you guys are taking it seriously, I still refuse to give sex tips to an underage girl. I don't want to help you break the law honey.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2008):

I'm sorry but you say you're ready. You THINK you're ready. You're underage, meaning having sex is against the law, and although I'm impressed you guys are taking it seriously, I still refuse to give sex tips to an underage girl. I don't want to help you break the law honey.

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