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How can we be together without comparing the relationship to how it was??

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Question - (15 October 2006) 1 Answers - (Newest, 16 October 2006)
A female , anonymous writes:

Ok so I finished school in the summer and am now at college.At the beginning of the summmer holidays I got back together with my ex, who I was in love with. We had the greatest summer ever, the best time of my life. But as circumstances changed and I had to go to college, the relationship changed. It lasted 2 months after I'd started college (4 months altogether) before we broke up. We still love eachother but It's really hard to make this relationship work. How can we both get over the fact that it's not going to be like it was back in the summer, so we can be together again without comparing it to how it was?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2006):

Unfortunately, many people have this problem when they go off to college. You really have only two options.

1. You can break up and see other people.

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2. You can deal with being apart for awhile and talk to eachother over the phone or the internet while you are away.

You will always know how good it could be if it was summer again, so you really can't forget it. All you can do, is do the best with what you've got. If it's not working out, have a trial separation, see other people, and see which way you guys are both the happiest. A word of caution though, you can't do that without a chance that one of you will find another person, while the other one will still be in love. Don't forget, theres always next summer.

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