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writes:Please provide advice for teens on how to avoid early sexThere are many pressures on teens and everyone wants to feel like they are like every one else. And not be different from friends. And so many people think they are successful if they can be with the opposite sex.But what if you want to avoid HIV and AIDS and STD and want to delay sex as long as possible?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2011): you know the word NO use it. When you find the right guy word your looking for is YES
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2011): You can't be forced or scared into not having sex. Even chastity rings don't work. You need to be informed. In fact, the most effective treatment was informing the teen about protection and sex while also telling them that its ok to wait.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2011): You are a beautiful person with a worthy goal: Do NOT be pressured into anything.
Lots of young girls give up their virginity because they want a certain guy to like them or continue in a relationship with them. The truth of the matter is: if a guy loves you and wants to be with you for the right reasons--he will wait for you.
If the guy can't wait--let him go.
Too many young people have come to think of sex as a purely physical act--they could not be further from the truth. Sex is a beautiful thing... but it's meant to be intimate and a show of love... not just a physical act.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2011): How about not getting together with anyone?I'm 19, never had a boyfriend and I'm still a virgin. A lot of people think I'm a right loser because of this. It does get me down and even my friends have called me 'weird' but, essentially, I'd rather people think I'm strange than give in to peer pressure and sleep with someone for the sake of it. I'm a student so I socialize and meet new people all the time, but I don't want to be with anyone unless they're basically the 'one' for me. I actually think that I have more strength of character than other people, even if they think I'm a loser because I know my own mind and have made the decision to follow what I think right's instead of the crowd.So it's not impossible. I think so long as you're assured in what you want and aren't afraid of being yourself then you don't have to give in to peer pressure. I bet loads of other people wish they had that kind of strength inside them instead of feelings that they have to copy everyone else. It's much better to be your own person than become some sort of clone of society. Remember that sex is optional and to use protection if you do have sex. You should have the right to say 'no' if you don't want to and that being forced into sex is a crime. Your life is yours and no one else will ever live it, so why should you do what other people want you to do? Be strong and follow what you think is right. It'll make you a fuller and stronger person in the long run.
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reader, Daniel the love doctor  +, writes (21 August 2011):
 Well teen pregnancy is always a big issue. And often times the teens are not ready to care for the child. In this case they would have to grow up and mature a lot faster than they should, take on a lot of responsibility, even put a lot of that responsibility on the parent(s).
Another big issue from having sex regardless if you're a teen or not is the risk of catching a disease. But teens do go through a lot of peer pressure, and yes, they usually want to fit in. But is it cool to be with the "in" crowd but yet you have Aids, an STD, or another problem from having sex too early?
You have to wait until you're absolutely ready to handle the responsibility that comes along with having sex.
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reader, InvisibleMe  +, writes (21 August 2011):
 I had sex because its something so widely discussed i felt like i was missing information on one of the most important subjects around but its really not THAT great afterwards. You dont really learn anything new it just that your involved in the act of it and you also have to worry about pregnancy as no contraception is 100%
If you want to avoid HIV AIDS and STDs then only have safe sex using a condom (although they dont protect from all STDs etc) and only have sex with people you know and trust also get a sexual health check every few months just to make sure your clean.
If you want to avoid sex then it shouldn't be hard at all as you already want to avoid it and its not something you need to learn to control yourself from having.
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reader, Myau  +, writes (21 August 2011):
 Well you could try what a workmate of myne has unwittingly done.
She is too busy to have a BF, always going to family functions or hanging out with friends.
You know you can have a bf and just make out.....you dont have to go further....just saying
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2011): For ages now my friends have been telling me to have sex, but the thing is I'm just not interested. I don't feel ready for sex and no matter how much pressure people put me under I refuse to give in to them all. I've been told by a lot of my friends that although they show off about having sex, they regret it and admit they would rather have done what I did and said no. Just because other people are doing something it doesn't mean you have to. I always thought fitting in was the most important thing and for a couple of years I did everything possible to fit in. But it hit me that fitting in is far from the most important thing. I realised that when I was trying so deseperately to fit in that I didn't like the person I was. I didn't feel like myself and couldn't seem to have a good time because I had to fit with a certain group of people or a certain outlook. I am now my own person and I haven't lost anything by doing it. People ask me why I don't want to have sex all the time and my answer is simple. 'Because I don't want to.' Don't let people pressure you, you will know when you're ready to have sex and if you do it too soon you'll only regret it. If those around you want to have sex let them but that doesn't mean you have to. Be your own person and don't follow the crowd, it's not as important as everything thinks to fit in. Good luck, I hope this helped you a little bit.
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reader, MeShell +, writes (21 August 2011):
 I'm 18 and turning 19 next month. I'm happy to say that I am a virgin. The thing is? I didn't think about sex all of the time. I payed attention to school, my friends and even when I had a boyfriend I didn't go to that extreme of physical contact with the opposite sex. I never even went past the touchy feel/make out session when dating. I don't regret a thing. And I'm not afraid to admit it to anyone. I just didn't want the risks at the moment, but that does not deny my readiness to have sex. I'm ready to have sex, but I want to wait for the right person. Call me crazy, but I do still believe in that one guy I will have the confidence to wake up next to after having sex. That may have been my hold up on sex, but it doesn't matter. Sex is just sex to me. Nothing more.
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