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How can my wife be so loose when she never had children, and supposedly not much sex?

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Question - (8 October 2010) 6 Answers - (Newest, 7 November 2010)
A male Denmark age 36-40, *ravo01 writes:

I have a very personal question, sometimes I am very confused about it.

When I got married to my wife, according to her she have not had any man in her life in last seven years. Before that she had only one short relationship(three months). It was seven years ago.

When we had our first intercourse I was expecting her tight down there. But I was surprised that I really did not feel any friction as her vagina was too much loose and wet. Even we did not do much foreplay before intercourse. (My instrument is big and thick)

I am not sure how to express what I felt on that specific moment. But it confuses me, that How she can be loose even she did not have sex in seven years.

Did she lie to me about her last seven years without any man? How much time does it take vagina to get normal(tight) again?

I have heard that it takes only few days vagina gets tight without having sex..But its the matter of seven years.

Or there any other possibility?

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I don't know how much I know about women. But I have been in some relations with women. Mostly were older than my own age. Some of them were mother of 2 to 4 kids. But believe me I have not had such sexual experience with them. I always had enjoyed it and for them I have a little bigger than a normal size instrument. While my wife never had given birth to any child. How she can be that loose? I am confused of it too much coz I have some experience otherwise I would not bother much.

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A male reader, Latino201 United States +, writes (7 November 2010):

The answer to your question is:

There is NO specific size for a vagina. I will let you in on a personal detail. I have dated many women and even had several escorts (while away on business - used protection!) and Vaginas are all different sized. The escorts who have sex all the time as you can imagine were tight as heck!. Some of the women I had sex with ,who only had 1 or 2 men before me.. had very large Vagina's. I did some research and found out they come in all shapes and sizes just like a penis. SO don't worry so much. If it bothers you that much, speak with her about it. There are exercises she can do and it also helps if she keeps dry in that area, she probably enjoys it and is getting too wet. That is not a bad thing!!!!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2010):

Everyone is always so quick to claim guys have a tiny penis when they talk about a problem like this. I have had an experience that was similar and have not had the same problem with any other girl. Some girls are just loose. I think that TasteofIndia pegged it; this is just the way your wife is. There are exercises to tighten a vagina called Kegels. Maybe you could convince her to try them. Sex becomes more enjoyable/tighter for both parties and Kegals are generally considered to contribute to good vaginal health. At least that is what I have heard.

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (8 October 2010):

eyeswideopen agony auntHa ha DED!

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A female reader, TasteofIndia United States +, writes (8 October 2010):

TasteofIndia agony auntEvery woman's body is different. Some are naturally looser than others, and a penis will not make any difference in the size of her vagina. She could have plenty of sex or no sex at all and remain the same size. Vaginas do not get tighter with less use. They have a natural state that the vagina always returns to, unless she's had a baby. A baby is the only thing that can actually morph vaginal size.

So accept your wife's vagina as is. That is her natural body and her vagina is naturally loose. It has nothing to do with a lack or abundance of dick in her life. Good luck!

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A male reader, Cccc Antarctica +, writes (8 October 2010):

Cccc agony auntWhat you dont use you lose...

You could act as if you wanted to train with her and then do stuff like squat etc to make the mussels stronger down there...I really dont know much about that though but Im pretty sure she can get it tight again.

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A male reader, DeadEyeDick United States +, writes (8 October 2010):

DeadEyeDick agony auntperhaps not as big and thick as think?

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