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*onik
writes:Hello guys I have a big big problem right now, how can I make my girlfriend to be open to me, I'm really confused, she's everything I need from a girl but she never talks and worse she ain't open to me and we have together for almost 2 years now. Pls help!! Reply to this Question
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reader, tonik +, writes (15 July 2010):
tonik is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you guys I guess there's nothing much I can do. I love her and I will wait till she's ready.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2010): Some women are just like this. And they can get better, but it's just never easy for them to open up.
My wife is like this. At first, I would make the mistake of opening up and telling her everything I feel. And when she wouldn't I would get upset and raise my voice at her. Not yelling, but I was frustrated that I could open up to her and she couldn't to me. Like if it was a choice she was making in her head that I wasn't worthy enough or she didn't love me enough to open up to me. But that wasn't the case.
The one thing I found that works, is I show her how hurt I am. Not by yelling, but I sincerely look sad, and tell her that I love her and share everything with her and it hurts that she can't do it with me. And then I leave her alone, and walk away for an hour or so. This usually leaves her thinking and she will come around and talk to me. But it has to be on her terms when she is ready. Get it?
Sucks, but that's how it is. Not everyone can share their feelings easily..
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reader, Plexi  +, writes (13 July 2010):
 Make her feel safe. Don't push her to open up when she's not ready, give her time and wait for her to do it on her own. It may help if you open up and share personal things with her. When I see people doing that it makes me feel a lot safer to open u[p and share things about myself too:)
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