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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:Ok so I've always had trouble making friends, I guess I don't really have much is common with other girls and im more of a guys girl. I only have one female friend, I've known her my whole life, we live down the same road, our mums are best friends and we are super close. The only thing is because of the subjects we took (she took girly subjects like english and history) whereas I took more boyish subjects so we don't have an classes together plus she has loads of friends since everybody loves her.Anyway this was all fine, I kinda hung around her male friends who i got along with because we took the same subjects and i just got along with them way much more than her female friends. The problem is I screwed up.I knew one of the boys liked me and i admit i led him on because I liked the attention. My only friend was always doing something, so the guys kinda got stuck with me and i knew that if they were all going off to do something that i didnt want to, i could convince this guy to stay with me by asking him to. Simultaniously I was also sleeping with another guy from the group (which everyone knew about) .A couple months ago i hooked up with another guy from the group (i literally want to slap past me).Nothing happened between us, but because everyone thought I'd slept with him, betraying the guy i knew liked me, despite never giving any indication i wanted a relationship, apart from the occasional flirting.I admit that i shouldnt have led the guy on or hooked up with the other guy. Now all the guys have collectively decided they want nothing to do with me (except for the guy I'm sleeping with) so now I literally have no other friends. I feel like I'm bugging my best friend even though we're best friends and we don't even have free periods together. I have to sit in the library on my own studying every lunchtime and I don't know how to get them to forgive me, i thought it would blow over soon.It's been months now and its actually horrible having nobody and I dont know what to do, because i completly deserve it, for being such a slut
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (15 April 2015):
 How old are you?
How old are these friends?
I think it's time to tell a grown up.... You made some choices that were not in your best interests. But just because you had sex doesn't mean you deserve to be bullied.
Go see the counselor at your school and explain your situation.
Or better still, talk to your mum. If you can.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2015): Bros stick together when a girl tries to create drama between them. Different from girls, they may get over it in a few weeks. Guys may not drag out "emotional" grudges.
They had to send you the message that you shouldn't be turning friends against each other; and using sex as a way to manipulate boys. It is better they just don't talk to you and ignore you; than spread rumors or treat you badly.
I recommend that you leave them alone, and try being friendlier around school to make more friends. You're lonely, because you're trying too hard to be one of the boys. You introduced "female-drama" into the circle of friends, and look what it got you!
Try to have a one-on-one talk to each of the guys separately. Apologize in-person to the guy who really likes you. Sometimes all it takes is letting the person you hurt know you're sorry. They're just giving him bro-support. No one is really turned against you.
Give them some space for a bit. They'll get over it. Keep your pants on; and stop passing yourself around in a group of boys. They will not respect you for that kind of behavior.
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