How can I tell if I've fallen out of love?

A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Hello All, I used to cry, suffer, begg and fight for the love of a man I once knew. He did many things against me. Although, he was emotionally abusive, rejections, humilliation, etc. Still I urged to be with him. I cried a river of tears over this man. NOW, I just can't stand him. It's not because I've found someone else. I am still single but I despise him to the bone! How can this happen? Am I out of love? Before, I used to look at him and suffered because I couldn't have him. Two weeks ago, I went through a rage because I saw him sitting in my couch! I kicked his a*ss out before he could say AMEN! Oh and the satisfaction was overwhelming. I am still savouring that feeling. See, once he kicked me out of his place after I humilliated myself, begging him not to take my son away. I used imagine him with another woman and my night would become sleepless. Now, I could care less if she stuck him up her a*ss!! What is this? Has anyone felt this way? How can a woman who used to drewl over this man, feel this way now? How long will this last? I have to confess I am happier this way because I feel powerful. Not the weak woman who used to get stomped over. See, this man is my ex husband. Is it possible to hate so much? It worries me. When he approaches me, I feel my arm become extremely heavy and hands automatically rolls into a tight fist. I just see myself punching the day lights out of him, uncontrollably until exhaustion overcomes me. Is this normal? The darkness in my soul is so much that I watch horror movies and it doesn't even scare me. What has become of me....

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