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How can I tell if I'm really in love with him?

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Question - (31 March 2006) 3 Answers - (Newest, 1 April 2006)
A United Kingdom, anonymous writes:

how do you know when your in love?

theres a guy hes the same age and we go to school together. im really close to him. i think i might be in love with him.

i think about him all the time. when im with him im really happy and i want to get close to him. when im not, hes always on my mind. he makes me feel special and i feel really relaxed around him.

the problem is though, ive been friends with him for ages and never felt anything untill recently, and hes now got a g/f and im becomeing worried and jealous because hes spending more time with her than me.

am i in love? if not how do you know when you are and if i am what should i do about it?

greatful for any help

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A female reader, smeedle United Kingdom +, writes (1 April 2006):

smeedle agony auntHe is a really close and good friend who has just got himself a girlfriend and you are having to face not having him around exclusively for you as much.

It is normal to feel love for a close friend but there are many forms of love and yours may not be the full on intimate type but on the other hand it maybe that you do love him like this and that his getting a girlfriend has made you realise how much you love him.

Whatever it is you can do nothing but stay friends and see what transpires with his girlfriend and him, when they break up, just be there for him and see how that pans out, he may realise he has feelings for you too but I would not do anything in the short term or you risk loosing a good friend for good.

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A male reader, tux United States +, writes (1 April 2006):

tux agony auntDid your feelings appear before or after he started to date the other girl? it could just be a case of wanting something you can't have or the fear of losing his friendship and/or time with him.. Or a combination of them. But I wouldnt do anything to get in the way of his current relationship. In the end, he may end up resenting you if you do. If/when his relationship ends and you still have those feelings.. You may want to consider letting him know how you feel.

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A female reader, xXxBabymamaXxX +, writes (1 April 2006):

xXxBabymamaXxX agony auntLOVE is a powerful word, and can differ from friendship to actually falling in love with someone, every person is differnt, id say your more CURIOUS then in love, don't say going out and breaking up with him will not change the relantionship, it will, if he really wants this, give him a while... His girlfriend is only new, this spending ALL time together will stop, remind him gf come and go, but FRIENDS LIKE YOU last forever.... laura , 16, good luck (",) if he wants it he'll make the move

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