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writes:I have recently moved to Spain with my dad. He likes watching x factor on a Satuday so we go to this english bar that shows it. We get on really well with the bar manager there Mark. Mark and I constantly flirt with each other and up till last night I just took it as a barman doing his job - for lack of a better term. Last night my dad and I were the only 2 left in the bar other than Mark. Well we helped him lock up and, we all live in the same general direction so we all walked together. My dad then decided he wanted to get a takeaway so I said I'd carry on walking and see him at home. Mark ended up walking me home - 20 minutes out of his way, he put his arm round me and kept saying that this is the nice - walking arm in arm. We were having a laugh and talking about general everyday things. I can't remember what lead to me saying the following but it came out - If you're after a quick shag you've picked the wrong bird, and his response was - if I wanted that I wouldn't be walking you home, I've got too much respect for your dad and you, I think you're a nice person we get on really well and I think we'd be good together. I didn't know what to say to him other than, thanks for walking me this far I live just there - and with that there were a few pecks on the lips and he said - that gives me something to look forward to.Now I'm not sure how to take any of this. I'm only 20 (21 on the 30th of dec) and he is 29 (30 on xmas day), age isn't really a factor to me but the main thing that's getting me is I tend to fall for guys that are complete arseholes so I'm very guarded and don't tend to let anyone in for quite a while. How can I tell if he's just trying to have his way with a younger woman or if he really means what he is saying??
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reader, Ginalolabridga + ♥, writes (4 December 2008):
 Hi,
For now play it safe be friends till you get to know him much better respect your father too remember your father is calling at this bar weekly and will build up a friendship with Mark and you do not want this to be marred with both of you starting to see one another too quickly allow your dad to get to know him better too and that way if you do become an item your dad will be at ease knowing your going out with a decent bloke and also remember Mark is running a bar loads of tourists loads of girls!!
Be careful and take it slow i hope you enjoy living in Spain.
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reader, Teacake  +, writes (4 December 2008):
 If he takes you out and doesn't try to sleep with you on the first date, its heading in the right direction.
From all I've experienced in this life, if you want a relationship with a man, its best to wait for the sex until you feel very close to him emotionally. Sex too soon usually prevents a relationship from growing. The man tends to back off if you haven't got something other going beside the sex.
This is just general take on all this complicated love stuff! Have fun and be on guard. Ask your dad what he thinks.
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