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How can I tell her that I'm bi and I like her without freaking her out?

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Question - (29 March 2011) 3 Answers - (Newest, 30 March 2011)
A female Singapore age 26-29, *ampurplesea writes:

I’m bi, a teenager and and I have never told anyone, all my friends are straight and they definitely don’t understand me so I’m a quiet girl, but I do smile and laugh a lot.

I just moved to a new school for a few weeks and I’m quite close to the girl who sits next to me in class. And from her, I knew this girl, at first we didn’t talk much but then we became friendly to each other, we started to talk and laugh, she gave me a cute nickname because she thinks I’m cute, she does hug me and stuff like she does to her best friend who is her classmate. But after all, I’m still not her best friend. But I really want to. Because I like her, a lot.

1 day, she came into my class and talked to me. We talked about our crush. I asked her first, and she said she has a crush on 1 of her classmate, but that guy doesn’t like her even though she sent him many sms-es. Actually, I knew that guy before I knew her, I really hate that guy! And when she asked me back, I said I don’t have a crush.

This morning, the girl who sits next to me in class was going out for lunch with me. I asked her does she hate gay or bisexual and she said no. I was kinda glad. She asked me am I gay and I told her the truth that I’m bisexual, she understood and we keep the secret.

So you guys, I need your help! I’m very very very afraid! I was very vulnerable, I wanted to tell the girl that I like that I like her very much, I want her so badly. But how can I tell her that I’m bi and I like her without freaking her out???

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2011):

It really depends on the person; one of my best friends is bi and I'm cool with it. On the other hand, another girl I know is bi but I feel uncomfortable around her. Simple as that. From what you described, though, you both seem to have a good relationship as it is so I wouldn't be too fearful right now.

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A female reader, Confused_123 United Kingdom +, writes (29 March 2011):

I agree with thomas1214. She'll either freak out of be fine with it. There's not actually anything you can do to stop her from minding if she does.

Also, ever heard anyone say "I don't care who they fancy, as long as it's not me." Many people are fine with having a gay friend of the same sex yet strongly dislike the idea of the person liking them.

It's down to luck whether or not this person freaks out. If you're not ready to find out leave it or test the waters by finding their opinion on sexuality.

Good luck :)

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A male reader, thomas1214 Canada +, writes (29 March 2011):

just tell her.... ethier it will freak her out or it wont

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