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writes:I got married few days ago, it was the first time for both me and my husband. he pushed his penis in my vegina once and i bled. I cried, so he stopped and that was it. Nothing before it and Nothing after it. few days later, i took the doggy position and he did it, the whole thing took 10 minuts max. I have complained to my husband about the lack of foreplay, but he doesn't grasp the concept, when he gets excited, he only wants to do me, What should i do to slow him down when he has no interest in any foreplay be it kissing or touching ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2007): sadly alot of guys dont know how to please a woman. because guys dont need foreplay like women do, alot of them dont realise that you do. from the sounds of things i dont think telling him will work, youll have to show him. there are lots of things on tv and the internet that can give him great tips, there are too many for me or anyone to explain now. maybe try and make him think it was his idea? you can also show him techniques to help him last longer too.
and one day he will be the skilled and considerate lover u want him to be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2007): when you take things really slow, starting with gentle kissing & light touching, it builds up the tension, & there's alot of pleasure to be had from the anticipation & seeing how long you can resist full sex
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2007): I'm the question sender, i just need to clarify that i hav communicated all my concerns to him explaining what i like and dislike, he tells me next time i'll give u foreplay, but as soon as he gets excited, he forgets about me and my playful time and gets inside me. instead of 10 minutes, i get 15 m, and that is all. he is not even interested in doing it twice. he does it once for 10-15m and he is happy and satisfied.
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reader, here_2_help  +, writes (9 February 2007):
 why dont you lead him on and say things like you know i love it when you ........ it feels so good and when he is doing something good tell him if he is doing something that dosent feel right say slower or i want you to and tell him!!!
hope this helps xx
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reader, maxsteel86 +, writes (9 February 2007):
 Ummm well first, guess you should tell him that you're not getting any pleasure out of it and that it hurts like hell. Next tell him you need to get turned on first and finally, since its both your first times (sorta) tell him what you want done since he cant read your mind!:-P and dont let him do you until you feel like it. Just tell him you need more foreplay till you've had enough. Its totally gonna suck if one partner enjoys it while the other doesn't.
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