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writes:How can I take a busy girl's friendship further into a potential relationship?~~~~~~In detail: She's the average, silent, "I am keeping to my work, and putting it first above all else" kind of girl. I know that she likes me, and her aunt has told me that "She really adores me." Her aunt has also told me that her father was struggling with some form of unavoidable cancer, died one day after her birthday. He promised he wouldn't die on her birthday, and he died one hour after her birthday. Because of it, I was told she might feel so damaged, she may never want to date anyone again.She even saved my life, and she still doesn't even know how she did, or even knowing she saved me at all. I was about to commit suicide an hour later, and she hugged me, because she missed my variety show act. I've always have held that in like a secret, for 4 years now, and more than anything, I've wanted to tell her.Most of the time, whenever I ask her for just a simple hangout, there have been a few times she was free, when she said sure, I would like to have fun with you, but then a hour/day later, then she said "I can't" and the reason why she couldn't. Lucky me, I am good friends with her cousin, and she really couldn't because she has certain family gatherings. Otherwise, he doesn't know much about her.However, the rest of the time, she's "swamped", and has a lot of work to do. I always get the feeling she wants to be with me, but she doesn't. This has been like this for 4 years now. Every once in a while, I stop at her workplace, and have fun with her, but I want to take this to a little higher level, and I am not taking "give up, and move on" for an answer, because she never gives up faith in me... even when I was about to give up my life. More than anything, I want to be with her, like, dating. Even if it's only a month. I just want to be with her. I want to be the one to hold her hand, and to protect her from anything that got in her way.So, how should I take this to another level? Even if it means failure doing so? How can I take a busy girl's friendship further into a potential relationship?There is only one wrong answer, and that's to "give up", otherwise, give me many answers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2010): Give her rides places and offer to bring over food and stuff.
Maybe ask if she wants to see a movie, maybe bring over pizza and watch it at hers or your house.
Dress nice and wear a good cologne. I perfer Acqua Di Gio. Armani. :]
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