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writes:How can I suggest to my boyfriend he needs to take care of his personal hygiene better? I mean, he showers and brush his hair and stuff. But how can I make him to shower every night and wash his clothes when it gets dirty and brush his teeth twice a day. Maybe I'm a clean freak, but don't everyone want to be seen nice and tidy?(I'm a city girl and he's a farm boy, so I understand he don't see things I do). Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2007): totally disagree with the other responses here. guys neglect personal hygiene b/c it just doesn't occur to them the way it does to girls. if you want him to take a shower, the way to do it isn't to trick him into it or that you have to make it this magical thing. it's a shower. i really doubt he has some aversion to it. my guess he doesn't always shower or brush his teeth 2x/day or wash his clothes b/c ... it's just not a habit for him the way it is for you. so take a minute to internalize that, and then figure that he probably wouldn't object to forming a new habit, as long as it's not part of some greater reform project you have for his life, generally. guys hate to be made over like a project, but ... they tend to like having someone to think of the details of life that they seem incapable of remembering. like the fact that those are the same socks they worse yesterday, and they should grab a new pair from the wardrobe. if you're not mean and bitchy and condescending about it, the message will go over a lot better.
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reader, Ask Heather +, writes (27 February 2007):
 You can`t "Make Him" take showers / wash clothes etc, but you certainly could try to encourage him. Obviously, working on a farm is very different than working in a city; and there is a lot of manual work involved, which perhaps leaves him absolutely shattered. I think it would be a great idea, if at all possible, for when you next have leave available from work, to spend a few days, or possibly a whole week, with your boyfriend, working alongside him. Apart from the fact that this will bring a whole new closeness between you both; you will then understand how tiring this way of life is! Perhaps, when work is done for the day, you can run a bath for the two of you to enjoy, and rest those aching muscles before eating together. He will enjoy being clean after a long day`s work, and you will admire him all the more for seeing how hard he works! You will both learn about each other from this! I wish you both luck, Kind Regards, Heather.
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reader, cd206  +, writes (27 February 2007):
 Why not get him more into the showers etc by offering to take one with him? The things you're asking him to do are basic hygiene requirements whether you come from the city of the country or planet Mars. If he doesn't brush his teeth refuse to kiss him. If his clothes smell maintain a 6 foot space between you. Hopefully he'll soon get the idea.
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