A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi there, I have a bit of a problem, I have been going out with my bf for over 2 years, however, I get texts from an old flame who thinks that he might be in with a chance (though I have been clear to him that it's not going to happen) - I have since changed phone numbers.My bf is a bit insecure about this, especially when I bumped into my ex while on my way to work last week, and was more than a little worried that it took more than an hour for me to get home (despite me being based in a different office, and work being nearly 2 hours away in the evening rush).How on earth can I reassure my bf that nothing is going on between me and my ex, and it was just a coincidence that we happened to be at the same place, at the same time - barely enough time to say hello(which has happened only once in our relationship)?Thanks
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reader, AskEve +, writes (13 February 2007):
 Your boyfriend seems very insecure about your ex, maybe even a little jealous of him because he's been with you too. All he needs is reassurance from you and changing your phone number was an excellent start. I would make him FEEL loved. Kiss him for no reason, if he asks "what was that for?" tell him it's because you love him and feel so lucky to have him. Slap his butt when you pass and give him a wink. Tell him he looks great! Leave messages for him so he finds them when he's opens his bag at work. Leave them in his shoes, on his pillow, in his pocket. "Missing you already!" "Thought about you and it made me smile." "Can't wait to see you tonight!" "I'm lonely without you here." "I love you" - with a kiss in lipstick at the bottom. All of these things will make him more relaxed and prove to him you don't ever want or need anyone else.
Slowly his confidence will return. Try it, you'll see I'm right! ;o)
Eve
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