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writes: My husband of 6yrs who i have a 5yr son by has cheated on me with a woman he works with and i gave him plenty of oppurtunities for him to tell me and he didn't. Now he tell's me there will never be a chance for me and him cause he's in love with her. I dont' know how to accept that i mean yeah i should move on cause he cheated but for some reason i got let it go. I want him not her to have him is there any way to prove my love to him or should i just let it go?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2007): i'm just gonna tell you now that neither of the previous responses are gonna get you anywhere. first of all if he's gonna cheat on you that means he doesn't love you and doesn't care about how you feel. Most men won't cheat if they think they have a good woman and not saying its your fault, but if you gave him a reason to think you would be with or desire another man other than him..he definitely won't be faithful to you. If this is not the case, then leave him. he's not worth it. yes, you may love him but it's not the end of the world and you deserve better. Never settle for less because it will only give you agony. Make a man respect you and i've read in an article that if a man knows a woman will leave him for cheating he most likely want. now i must tell you that trying to hunt him down or be angry at the other woman will get you nowhere. it will only make him pull farther away from you. be confident in who you are and tell him that you are fully ok with him leaving because you can do better. get your hair done, your nails done, and begin your new life. even if he tells you he wants to come back, deny him forever because he has violated the covenant between the two of you. yes, you can still forgive him but he doesn't deserve a second chance and if you do allow him to come back to you after this you will only make yourself look stupid and you will never be able to fully trust him. When you're married to someone, you should be able to trust them completely and be vulnerable in their presence because you know they won't hurt you. Now that you can't, there can't be real love between the two of you anymore. you will go on wondering if he's ever gonna cheat again or if he's really going where he says he is...you don't need that type of heartache. i beg u to leave him alone. i know it will be difficult for you but remember this: in time all things heal. focus on your son and devote yourself to loving him and eventually teaching him to respect women and if he ever gets married tell him to be faithful. trust me, you'll make it through this. And i don't know if you're into jesus christ but he is very much a part of my life and i will tell you that trusting and believing in him has brought me out of the worst pain that i've ever experienced in life. If you trust in him he will bring you unspeakable joy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2006): I don't think your love is in question here, but his is.
I understand you have a five year old child with him, and he has told you that he loves the other woman and wants to leave you in spite of your child.
I understand this is devastating news, but unless he is willing to get some counseling with you and pronto, I don't hold much hope here....I think you need to get some professional help yourself on your own to help you cope with this major blow and to help you sort out your feelings so that you can move forward and make decisions about what the next steps should be for you and your marriage.
If it were me, I would put my foot down, either her or me, pal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2006): well if you have a five year old son i would stay with him. just chill out and stay with him.but then when your son gets older like 11 years old u can get back at him. weell have fun and make the right choice.
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