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How can I protect my baby sister from my step dad?

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Question - (7 July 2009) 13 Answers - (Newest, 3 December 2010)
A female United Kingdom age 22-25, *OXY01 writes:

My mum has just had a little baby girl she's only 6 months, im really worried about her future and safety.

My step father used to touch my other younger sister (17) when she was only 5.He told her he would kill her if she told my mum. But she did anyway. my mum kicked him out, but they got back together, and been together for 13 years. my mum seems to ignore it, she try's to forget it happened and is convinced my step dad wont hurt my new baby sister.Im not so sure.

He hasnt touched me. But he does play with himself infront of me when he thinks my mums not looking, i dont know how to tell my mum wat he's doing, i normally just try to avoid him as much as i can.

Im 19, i should be able to speak up for myself. I want to tell my Boyfriend, but i dont know how he will react.My step fathers been in my life for as long as i can remember, i know my mum will never leave him. I hate him so much but im a soft hearted person and feel bad for hating him.

What should i do to make sure my step father doesnt touch my baby sister in the future?

Please help!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2010):

my other things did not show but go to the link it is sad tho

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A male reader, axs678 United States +, writes (3 December 2010):

back ok here it is read this ok it is sad http://www.experienceproject.com/stories/Have-Been-Sexually-Abused/36222 thats the link

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A male reader, axs678 United States +, writes (3 December 2010):

me again and i red another story and it proovs that he will never stop ever ill send the link in 5 min

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2010):

just dont leave your sister by herself because if u do somthing is going to happen for a example say you at school in your mom work in its just her in the baby he can do somthing in he wont tell the turth in the baby cant talk so just dont leave her by herself thats my advice hope you take it

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A female reader, "I hAvE mY oN pRoMbLe" United States +, writes (7 July 2009):

You need to do something cause people like him need to be in jail for the rest of there life. I believe he will try something with her when the time is right cause they never stop. Tell someone before it get out of hand

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A male reader, holikdad United States +, writes (7 July 2009):

People like this don't stop molesting children. This will happen to your baby sister and since your mom won't do anything about it then you should.

My wife was in the same situation with her step dad, her mom knew what was going on but didn't do anything about it.

Obviously your mom is weak so you will have to take action for her. When was the last time that he touched your 17 year old sister? I believe the statute of limitations in the US is 5 years for molestation so it's a good bet that he was touching your sister in that time period. If your laws are the same then go to the police and take your 17 year old sister with you and press charges. They'll yank him out of your house so fast his head will spin.

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A female reader, SirenaBlusera Mexico +, writes (7 July 2009):

SirenaBlusera agony auntYou need to go to the police about this! Go to the police, do not pass "GO" and do not collect your $200. Call child protective services, too.

This man belongs in PRISON!

I hope that he does go to prison, and I hope the other prisoners kick his ass. Scumbags need to get what they deserve.

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A female reader, ROXY01 United Kingdom +, writes (7 July 2009):

ROXY01 is verified as being by the original poster of the question

ROXY01 agony auntThank you all so much for your advice, Everything you'v said has gone through my mind a million times.

I dont ever leave her alone with him. Infact my mum and i fight alot bcoz im so protective of my sister and dont alow her to be with my step dad often. I wont let him change her nappy and ask him to leave the room when mum or i bath her. My mum can see im uncomfortable with my step dad holding her or playing with her.

i just hope she can open her eyes too. i will take in everyones advice .

THANK YOU THANK YOU so much...

Roxy.XXX

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A female reader, Starlights United Kingdom +, writes (7 July 2009):

Starlights agony auntbasically if u dont want to report him to mum or social services, u have to be with her 24 hours a day becoz he can do this to her anytime...

it might be years before he attacks her, u cant tell with peadophiles, they are mentally sick!

please report this man, if he doesnt do it to your sister then he will do it to another child 100% , they never stop, and by then it'll wreck another life

your mum makes me irritated how could she stick by a sick man like that. u need to make her understand. she might just be living in cookoo land

call & report him anonymously if you have too!!!!!!!

and do it soon!!!!!!!

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A female reader, Emilysanswers United Kingdom +, writes (7 July 2009):

Your mum is failing you and your sisters.

You are not safe where you are. You NEED to call social services or ask your sister whether she would be willing to go with you and report him to the police.

What he is doing is illegal and he would be put in prison if any one found out.

Since your mum is not capable of keeping your sister safe you need to take responsibility and report him before it is too late.

Good Luck!! xx

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A female reader, Teenage-Rebel United Kingdom +, writes (7 July 2009):

Teenage-Rebel agony auntDon't leave her alone with him as she gets older and yeah you should talk to someone. Tell your boyfriend it might help and also you should talk to your mum about it and how your not comfortable..

he shouldn't be doing this... you are better saying to someone you trust that your concerned about your sister

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2009):

this is terrible. as the previous poster said, never NEVER leave your sister alone with this man. next time he plays with himself infront of you make it known to your mother. your baby sister is at high risk id say

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A female reader, PinkyFloya United States +, writes (7 July 2009):

Never leave her alone with him.

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