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How can I make sure I keep him interested without seeming too desperate?

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Question - (10 March 2010) 1 Answers - (Newest, 11 March 2010)
A female United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I have been talking to a man for a few months now haven't met him yet as both have really busy jobs and live 200 miles apart. We text a lot. I have on occasions text him and he doesn't answer so text to ask if he's still alive which he then replies too. I did text him too much at the start and probably did his head in I also explained to him problems with previous relationships I had. We sorted everything out and now I'm trying not to texts to much he says he is going to come and see me but its just finding the time I have 2 jobs and a son to look after. I really like him and we seem to get on how can I make sure I keep him interested without looking too desperate. Help. Confused I know if he didn't want to be bothered he wouldn't keep talking to me

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A female reader, babymonkey422 United States +, writes (11 March 2010):

babymonkey422 agony auntYou're exactly right on the last part, if he wasn't interested he wouldn't continue to text you so that's good! :)

Just give him some space and think about if he were texting you that much, how would that make you feel? Annoyed? Smothered? So just think about that when you text him. Just know that he doesn't have to hear from you every hour every day to be interested in you and vice versa. I don't know how much you text him but just cut it down slowly. Like text him first only like twice a day, maybe once asking how his day is going and talk from there and maybe once again later in the day letting him know you're thinking about it. Everyone needs their space including you :)

Another little thing to try is to think right before you text him, "Do I reeeeeeally need to say this to him or do I just want to?"

Hope this helps!!! :D

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