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writes:Hi everyone,Okay so I've just turned 16 and throughout high school I have been quite quiet and haven't really had many friends, at the start of high school I made a silly mistake by pretending I was someone I wasn't and not realizing people would dislike this person I was pretending to be. I'm going to college this year and I really wanted to start fresh and get off on the right foot with everyone and make loads of friends, I like to and want to go out with friends and have friends who want to talk to and be around me, not just who talk to me because I'm there and say hi first. I'm going to a college far from my high school so there is no one from my high school going there, I missed a couple of the open days and there are only a couple I can attend to make friends with people. My issue is I can be a little shy and struggle to find things to talk to people about, I always go through the obvious small talk and can never really keep a conversation going. I really badly want to make good friends who will stay interested in me but I don't know what to talk to them about or how I should act, acting myself would mean I am quiet and wait to be spoken to before I speak and this won't get me anywhere. Please can I have some advice on how to make a great first impression and keep people talking so that I can make loads of friends. Please help me, thank you for reading my message.
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reader, Usagi  +, writes (6 January 2012):
 well first of all, not matter what you do or how you approach people, BE YOURSELF :)
go up to someone with a smile(a smile will make all the non-snob people friendlier) and introduce yourself. even compliment something you actually like about the other person(like "great haircut, do you style it yourself or go to a salon?"), but not too much or they will think you are a suck-up.
just aim at people that might have the same interests you have and you will find something to talk about :)
and when you do find something to talk about just say your opinion, make a joke maybe(careful not to insult what they like though) and the conversation will flow naturally.
best wishes on your new start :)
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