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writes:i love my husband more than anything. i am very possessive for him. i do not like when he take very interest while talking to any other women. when v go out he always look at other women admiring them. i just hate this about him. he always dress up himself very well when he is with others. and when v both are together he don't take any interest in dressing up. but still i love him very much. i understand that he needs space. but i love to stay always with him. i feel alone when he is not near me. i want him to love me more than i do. what should i do for that. i don't want fo lose him or his love. i want always myself in his heart. please help me what should i do. he shows always that he cares for me. but i realise that he really don't. he ia very practical person. pls help me, i dont want to loose him, i may die without him. i love him so much. i think i am some what very needy
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (17 February 2013):
"i think i am some what very needy"
THIS is your problem, it's not your husband. You need to work on your self esteem, maybe go see a psychologist. That doesn't make you crazy, it makes you want to be a better person (for your husband).
Being this needy is probably pushing him away, so you're having the opposite effect on him that you want.
If you really want to strengthen your relationship you need to do nice things for him. Give him a massage, plan a nice date, talk with him in bed, give him little gifts, etc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2013): "When you go through a breakup that you didn't personally plan on happening, it can be a real rough spot in your life. Being dumped by the love of your life is a really hard fall, one that a lot of people have a hard time recovering from. When you're still in love with the person you now have to call your "ex," the entire world just seems crappy...but the good news is that it's by no means impossible to rekindle the way your ex once felt about you and get your relationship back on track.
Reforging a broken relationship isn't easy, not by a long shot...but it IS possible. Your ex may not LIKE you much right now, but it takes a seriously cold-hearted person to just flat-out stop loving somebody that occupied a large portion of their heart. There's very likely still a little spark somewhere in there, just waiting for you to flare back up.
The main question now that's probably on your mind is "How? How do I make my ex fall in love with me again?" Well, it shouldn't be any harder than getting him or her to fall in love with you in the first place. Well, maybe a little harder since you have some distance between you now, but it doesn't have to be some daunting task that makes you curl into a little ball and cry.
All you really have to do is be the person they fell in love with the first time, without the flaws and problems that drove them away. To do this, you'll have to really do some analysis on yourself, your flaws, and your relationship. Sometimes during the breakup, the breaker-upper will telled the broken-up-with what the reasons are, but not always. Usually the poor guy or girl with the broken heart is stuck wondering what went wrong, so if you're that guy or girl...your biggest obstacle is finding the problem.
Now, not that that should be really all that difficult. Usually there's a fairly clear-cut reason for a breakup, although a lot of the time it's a fair number of smaller things that all add up to be one big thing. Whatever the individual case for you is, you need to dig at yourself and your relationship to find out what really caused the breakup. Once you know what was wrong, you can fix it and make sure it's never the culprit again.
Remember that you can only do something about the stuff that's your fault...and YES, if you were the one being broken up with, it was probably your fault. No need to get emotional about it, just accept that you made a few mistakes and that you need to do some work on yourself. And that's just what you'll do: once you know what went wrong, you fix it.
If you were being too bossy, take a chill pill. If you were being to lazy, stop taking those chill pills and get up off your butt. If you weren't paying enough attention to your ex, slap yourself around a bit and start focusing and listening. Any action you were or weren't doing has something else you can do or not do in order to fix it. Everybody's problems are different, so whatever yours are...fix em!
If you can do this, and more than that if you can keep doing this, you're going to look a lot better to your ex than you did even at the fiery beginning of your relationship. And don't forget to maintain the person you were before! A lot of people gain a lot of weight during a breakup depression, make sure you keep in shape! Remember, you want to look GOOD to your ex. Irresistibly good, undeniably good, absolutely magnetically good. A beer gut or Ben & Jerry's thighs aren't going to make your ex come running back slobbering for some lovin'.
Once you've made yourself as irresistible as possible, you'll start to realize that even if you don't get your ex, you'll start drawing the attention of other members of the opposite sex as well. This'll boost your self-confidence and make you look even better to your ex. Seeing how well you're getting along IS a lot more likely to bring him or her come running back for some lovin".
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