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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I meet my husband six years ago online. We are from different country and love each other very much. March 2014 we married and I move to his country. I agreed to help him in his business before I get a job there. Therefore I help him. He said that those are small matters, and want me to involve more. But I am confused.July 2015 I started to mind my own business which is searching job. I've been unemployed since I moved to his country and I heard that after too long unemployed nobody will hire me. This makes him sad.To make it worse, I lived with his parents and 2 brothers so at night it is their time to gather. I didn't understand their conversation so I rather go to our bedroom to rest and clean our room.Actually, I feel betrayed. We are married. Yet, he is with his family until middle of night. I am always together with him when he work (which is stressful for me) and never when relax/rest time. Early this year I returned to my country for good and live with my parents. He agreed to moved to my country despite he need time to settle his responsibility there.However, my mother insulted him several times and my husband can not forgive her. In my opinion, my mother is already hurt my husband pride and trust and he will never forgive her. Now my husband don't want to move to my country...... and once he asked for divorce.He didn't call me, didn't text me anymore. He always busy and sometimes ignore me. I really feel lonely and want him....... I love him.What should I do to change his mind? Or at least, to return his pride? Or to make him to forgive me and my mother?Please help.....
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (27 October 2016):
 Am sorry honey but you cannot "make" him do anything. It sounds like your marriage was not right from the start. It sounds like you two are very different and want different things. I understand that you love him and you are hurting but it might be best to get divorced like he says and meet someone with similar tastes to you in life. I understand your mother upset him but am sure there must be more to it than that.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (26 October 2016):
 This seems like a poor match - no talk of love or understanding between cultures. It's possible a divorce may be best. You can't make him forgive anyone or give him his pride back.
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