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How can I make her really mine? I know she is attracted to me

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Question - (31 August 2015) 5 Answers - (Newest, 4 September 2015)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I met her in high school, and we have been friends ever since. I have told her I love her and she has told me she loves me too. I have distanced myself but she has gone out of the way to make me come back to her. Our boyfriends have been suspicious and jealousy of our relationship, but we have vehemently refused to let us go.

At university, she has come in my room and we have cuddled naked, I have told her how much I am attracted to her, but she has not said she is attracted to me.

Yet she lets me in, she won’t push me away.

I have tried to find out if she is really attracted to me, and it has been one hell of a journey.

She is a quite person and easily communicates by text, rather than in person, so it’s tricky

Last weekend, we went for sauna, and she let me shower her and hug her naked, but I couldn’t push for a kiss yet, for fear of making her scared .

I am taking it one day at a time.

So my question is do you think she is gay?

When we meet, we want to be touchy, Everybody including my family think she is gay....and I know she is attracted to me , so how can I really make her mine

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2015):

I think you should just read her signals and when the timing is right, go for it. She obviously finds you attractive and you her, just find that moment and see what happens.

The worst she can say is no. That's it. And it may hurt and sting but the possibility of if she says yes is much better, right?

Good luck!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2015):

At notsohappy

Currently we both dont have boyfriends...but we have been in relationships before.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2015):

Thanx Denizen,

I will follow my insticts

And about making her really mine quote, i know i cant own a person.

its came out in the wront context ..i just need her to comeout and tell me how she feels

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A male reader, Denizen United Kingdom +, writes (31 August 2015):

Denizen agony auntWhat do you mean, 'Really make her mine'? You don't own people. If you just want to cement your relationship, I think you are already on the right path. Follow your instincts.

She must be at least bisexual or you wouldn't be having the intimacy you already enjoy. Straight people are often repulsed by overt homosexual advances. They don't get naked and cuddle.

I hope you both make each other happy.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2015):

Dump your boyfriend. And don't go with her when she has a boyfriend, that is just tacky.

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