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writes:I have been dating this great girl for two months and falling for her. She moved here recently because her ex made her and she has a young child. Couple times a month she goes back home to see her friends and when she comes back she is depressed. Tells me how much she hates this place and has no friends family or anything. Me and my child try to do everything with them and I do everything I can to treat her like a princess and want to be happy here. She recently told me how she feels loved. How can I make her see that although this won't be her home she can still have a happy life here and still visit her past life.
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reader, missy_25 +, writes (9 April 2016):
Just be you, be sincere, and listen. A person who's dealing with a lot of things sometimes just needs a person who's willing to listen and give her unbiased advise. Encourage her to think about what she really wants out of her life and tell her that she CAN have it. Most of all, if you care for her, remind her that you are their to support her. She needs to figure herself out and love herself first before she should be in a relationship. And when she's ready, hopefully that would be with you. Another thing that girls love is when you make them smile or laugh. Remind her that there's light at end of the tunnel. Just have faith in herself and in God. Because He will never let her go. She just needs to get out of her shell and go for it. Live life to the fullest. Believe me when i say love happens when you least expect it. It's so so much better when you don't force things. Just see how thisunfolds for you but she'slucky to have you be concerned about her.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (6 April 2016):
Simple...You STAY happy and in a good and positive mood...why??
Because we tend to pick up the mood of those we care about. You may end up being just as depressed as she is, if you are not careful to stay in your own positive mood.Two depressed people can't help each other.
You lead a happy positive life, and let her follow you out of her depression.
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (6 April 2016):
 You can only offer your unconditional love. If she accepts it or not is up to her. In her mind she will be weighing up her future, and deciding if it includes you and your child.
Getting over a previous relationship can take a long time. Don't pressure her. Let her come to you in her own time. It sounds if you are treating her well and that won't go unnoticed by her or her little one.
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