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writes:My boyfriend and I have been seeing one another for 10 (ten) months now. I love him to bits, and everyone and anyone can see how head over heels I am for him. The only problem is I feel very insecure, because of something that happened in the beginning of our relationship. His ex-girlfriend broke up with him about five months before we started seeing one another. We were friends at the time, and I told him that I would wait until he was ready/comfortable to be in a relationship. So eventually we started dating, and my feelings for him deepened almost instantly. The only problem was his ex girlfriend still continued to text him things like "I miss you" "Come cuddle with me," "I want to talk to you again." etc. It bothered him and he would get severely depressed. After a while he told me he stopped responding to them, that she didn't matter, and that he loved me.But in November, I was using his phone to play some games (he had said I could; it's a touch phone with all the nifty gadgets haha) she sent him a text. I will admit that I was curious and so I read a little of the conversation. The texts were dated for that day and the day before. He was answering her, telling her things like he still missed her, how he wasn't over her, and how he has kept all of her stuff, and her picture in his wallet.I didn't say anything about that. It broke my heart, although I understood because we were still a new couple ourselves. She STILL continues to text him now, and although he's proven on more than one occasion he has absolutely no feelings for her, I'm finding it extremely hard to get over my own issues. I love him so much, is there any possible way I can let this go?
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reader, Duckyhelp  +, writes (13 July 2010):
 You need to talk to him about it, the situation can't be sorted if its not. That way he can tell you how he feels now, and tell him you are not comfortable with him texting her due to the past. Just make sure to get all feelings out in the open.
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reader, Traycie  +, writes (12 July 2010):
If you trust him and you trust your relationship then you'll just have to find a way to get over it just tell yourself that he loves you and wants you and he doesnt love or want her
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reader, sunnycomet +, writes (12 July 2010):
 I'm still a little confused. Did you find this text recently or in the beginning of the relationship?
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reader, 11muds11 +, writes (12 July 2010):
You simply have to talk with him about it. Sit down when it's a nice relaxing time to talk. Try to be as unaccusing as you can. In fact, tell him you feel guilty about your part in how it happened. It sometimes does take a long time to get untangled from a previous relationship.
Tell him to be honest ith you no matter what his answer is. It's really best for both of you for the truth to come out. Good luck
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