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*omlo Senpai
writes:So I am a 19 Year old US Marine, and i made the mistake of joining the Military while in a relationship, (i know im still young, dont remind me..) things were great. Until i told her we should take a break, since my for my job (MOS School) i had to attend classes and i really couldnt afford to be distracted. So she took that as "youre not good enough for me" long story short she dumped me. I came home and she decided to pick me up and tell me that everything was fine between us and kissed me and hugged me like she used to. Thats when the lies began. If she had told me straight forward that she no longer wanted to be with me id be ok. But once again she left me and not within an hour she found another man. Left her alone and get a text from her saying she misses me,tells me we should get back together. She then completely ignores me. While later she texts me again, saying she misses me and all she does is fight with him. She played me so well i was giving her attention and time and she knew it. I was wrapped around her finger. Big Surprise when i get a text at 2 AM saying, "sorry im choosing Greg again". Ive tried forgetting but i cant, i dont know what to do to forget her. Its been 2 months and ive been depressed. I have trouble sleeping and what not. I dont know what to do anymore. I feel like i did everything right and that i was respectful and gave her everything and in the end i was still stepped on and used. Pretty much a recurring thing. I cant take it anymore. I want to know how do I get over all this? How can i let go?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2015): When I was younger I wanted to joing the military my boss had also been in the military previously and the first thing he said was 'are you single' which I was, he said 'good. You'll definetly want to be single!'
I think you will have so much going on with this job and meet so many new people you will get over this relationship and look back and realise it was a good thing for you. Sometimes it takes a while to get out the the depressed stage( or it does for me) but just keep focused on other things and keep yourself busy. Time heals and really puts it all into perspective when you look back!)
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (5 July 2015):
 You realize that she was IN FACT not good enough for you. She wasn't mature enough, kind , caring or even emphatic enough to date you (or anyone else to be honest).
Then... cut the contact. BLOCK her number, BLOCK and un-friend her on Facebook and ALL other apps or site you are "friends" with her on.
She might not have totally understood that you DID the whole "break" think out of respect for her and for you new career. And that is not totally unreasonable for someone THAT young.
Focus on your friends, family, job, your school, your fellow soldiers - they NEED you to be focused and not sitting moaning over some girl who wasn't worthy of you.
It will get better.
And she had "Gregg" in her "fallback" plan the whole times, so just remember this girl is NOT the kind of GF you want or need.
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