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How can I let a friend down without hurting his feelings?

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Question - (9 November 2014) 4 Answers - (Newest, 10 November 2014)
A female United States age 51-59, anonymous writes:

Dear Cupid,I have question well I dated this guy for awhile but our relationship never went no where the sex was a no go I mean as person he was awesome but his manhood was smaller than his eyes could see.Just last week I spoke to him over the phone and he wanted to come where I live I told him no he began to get frustrated and only thing I could do was say im sorry but I'm not interested.Is there another way I could have let him down or just told him why I really didn't want him here.

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A female reader, chigirl Norway +, writes (10 November 2014):

chigirl agony auntNo, you said you weren't interested and that's all he needs to know. He knows his penis is small, he probably gets it. Guys are quite sensitive about their penis, so even if it wasn't because his penis, I am sure he'd still guess it was his penis...

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (10 November 2014):

Honeypie agony auntI'd say never tell a guy it's over because his penis is too small, that would be cruel. I'm sure a guy like that ALREADY knows that his penis is on the smaller side.

You could have said you didn't feel a spark or chemistry between you. And just wish his well.

However, you told him, Sorry, no I'm not interested - THERE IS NOTHING wrong with that.That wasn't rude or mean to tell him.

YOU a mature woman who KNOWS what she wants. And if SEX is part of what you want, and this guy can't provide for your sexual needs - then he isn't for you.

Personally, I have always preferred a guy with MAD bedrooms skills over a large penis. BUT that is MY preference.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2014):

Sir I am not a shallow thinking person its what it is he almost looks like the Ken doll between his legs and I'm suppose to continue something that I don't feel good about I don't think so that's the reason we went our on way I preferred to leave then act like its what I wanted.I am going to be honest with myself in this case size does matter.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2014):

just ignore him.

Get out of his life, he doesn't need you - you say hes awesome but the way he looks is your problem. Thats quite shallow. It will be cruel to be kind to just get out of his life the quickest way possible with minimal communication. Don't ever tell him the real reason, he won't be daft, if you mention it it could hurt him for a while well after you're gone.

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