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How can I leave him but not cut him out of my life completely?

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Question - (6 September 2012) 1 Answers - (Newest, 13 September 2012)
A female Australia age 30-35, *Genevieve writes:

I am desperatly need advice from a completely objective third party... My question is how do I leave my live in boyfriend of three and a half years?

I have been making and remaking my mine up for months on if I should leave him. I definetly dont want him out of my life completly and i know we could try to still be friends so as absolutely horrible as it sounds the biggest thing I'm worried about is how? We have all the furniture ect I don't even know we're to start. I got out a personal loan for him which is still owing 4000 and a credit card bill also in my name that we use together with a balance of 6000! I know he will be angry at me if I leave him and will claim everything is his and dumb all the repayments on me.. I will be the one to move out as I can afford the rent at our current property alone I don't want to loose my 1500 bond. It all just seems so hard and thats why I havnt don it sooner he is a nice guy but we are just at diffrent life stages please help!!!!!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2012):

Your first step would be sitting down with him and tell him exactly what you're feeling. If he is a nice guy he shouldn't expect you to be stuck repaying his loans. If you bought stuff together figure out a far way of dividing things. You might end up losing money, but if you're not happy living with him, it might be well worth it.

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