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male
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:I just got into a relationship, its been quite a few months in. We are about to hit 3rd base and this is my first time someone will give me a handjob or even a blowjob. I don't think I can last for more than 30 seconds. Any tips on how to last longer on the first time?
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reader, N91 +, writes (24 September 2017):
 I wouldn't do anything if I were you. The more you build it up in your head and put pressure on yourself will end up affecting your performance.
If you cum quick, so what? It's your first time. You may even last a good while, who knows?
Just relax and go with it
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female
reader, CindyCares  +, writes (24 September 2017):
 I would not worry . Suppose you come very fast the first time. So what ? You are 18- 21 , in half an hour ,tops, you'll be ready to go again and this time you will last longer.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (24 September 2017):
 *compliment to her, autospell...
PS do her a favour and dont masturbate before you meet her. Because then you will either take too long time or not come at all, which will just make her think you dont enjoy it/dont find her attractive.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (24 September 2017):
Yeah, dont bother trying to last long. Trust me. Its a commitment to her if its so good you can not last long. Also, if you last long she might be sore /tired. It is best for her that you are quick to finish, honestly. Especially when it comes to blowjobs. Just give her a warning before you squirt. Enjoy it!
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reader, Riot2017  +, writes (23 September 2017):
- Do things slowly
- Close your eyes
- Visualize the sea or something that gives you calmness while.
- Focus your mind outside yourself, and place it elsewhere.
- Take breaks / pauses
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (22 September 2017):
 Yes, give yourself an orgasm a couple of hours before you see her. Some guys who really go fast sometimes rub one out about two hours before their date, slowing them down and keeping themselves from being over-excited and ready to explode at the slightest touch.
This way, when you and she start working, you'll orgasm again for sure, but the build-up won't be so lightspeed and out of control. You can relax and enjoy the sensations, having had 4 or 5 hours to "re-load" after your solo-session.
You'll get into the groove soon enough! You won't "jizz in your pants" as the SNL song goes. LOL
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (21 September 2017):
 No tips just go with the flow, you will get more comfortable and last longer as time goes on. It is quite normal for men starting out to orgasm quick, nothing to be worried about. Just make sure you give your girlfriend plenty off attention as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2017): Well there is a high chance you will come quick the first time but that is not a dead cert. Just enjoy yourself and don't worry about it, we all have to start somewhere :)
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female
reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (21 September 2017):
 Honestly, OP, oral is a lot of effort, so lasting longer can actually be exhausting for the person giving it.
If it's just a handjob, then perhaps masturbate before they arrive.
Please do not allow oral without you wearing a condom. Buy flavoured condoms and plain or flavoured water-based lube, but do not have any form of sex without protection.
If you plan on giving them oral, use condoms or dental dams on them too. Protect yourselves from STDs, even if you both say you're virgins because oral can spread STDs and not everybody remembers to protect themselves during oral.
If they don't want to, don't be intimate with them because they aren't worth risking your health for.
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reader, jc2008 +, writes (21 September 2017):
I would masturbate beforehand if you know that you don't last long. Just relax and only do what you feel comfortable with
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