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writes:Hello. I have a question that has been bugging me. To explain, it has something to do with a female student in my college Psychology class. I have no idea how old she is. I think she is 18 or 19 like I am. I am also female. But anyway, she and my Psyc teacher flirt everyday in class and I feel uncomfortable by it. Please don't judge me when I say that I liked the teacher. I just admired his teaching, nothing more, but he seems to take a lor of interest in this girl in particular. I also have a boyfriend. This teacher is out of my league and he is I think in his fourties. I cannot concentrate in class when these two are always making inside jokes and laughing about his lectures. The rest of the class find their flirting funny but I find it inappropriate and uncomfortable. How can I deal with this nonsense and focus on myself without being distracted by the two? The quarter does not end for another four weeks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2015): Focus on the subject, listen to the lecture, and get through the next four weeks. That's self-discipline.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (27 May 2015):
 I am not sure what you define as inappropriate or even as flirting.
What about the interaction is so disturbing? Are they making jokes that no one else would get?
Or is it just that the class is not a cut and dried lecture that you were expecting.
Is their "flirting" impacting negatively on your grades or your ability to get the necessary information?
I am the woman that probably would be "flirting" with the instructor. And I would probably not even see it as "flirting" more of a joking around kind of thing.
If the class is still getting the information necessary to learn, and no one but you is upset, then my concern is that you are not interpreting the situation appropriately. If that's the case then you may find as you move on and upwards out into the world that this form of interaction is an issue for you going forward.
Best to figure out what's actually bugging you about it so that you can apply it to the "real world" situations you will encounter along the way.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (27 May 2015):
 By ignoring it?
Or talk to your teacher after class?
My guess is this is a little about envy here? That he pays (in your eyes) too much attention to her?
I think once you hit college there is a different dynamics for teachers/students - however IF IT IS inappropriate why not ask him to tone it down?
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