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writes:dear cupid,During my life as a kid, me and my mother haven`t gotten along. I have been yelled at daily, told Im a bitch, and just to move out. Lately it has gotten worse, my friends say even mother/daughter relationships are like this, But the more she puts me down the more i doubt that. I need help to either solve this problem with my mom, or end my reltionship with her. So can you help me to help heal our relationship, or end it completely?
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reader, MAGGIE2010 +, writes (11 November 2010):
 Raphael said it all.Talk to her as her daughter not an enemy or friend.Tell her how you feel.When my sons where little there father did the same thing.when they got older they told him how it made them feel,what we found out was that he was done the exact same way by his step father.Children learn what they live.always remember that.
but you can change,know that you are not the person she is telling you that you are,you are better than that.Pray for her every night and ask the lord to help her solve any problems she has that causes her to lash out at you this way.Maybe she is depressed and needs help.Only you can find out with a good talk.And the answer to your question:a mother daughter relationship is not this way.She gave life to you.That is one of the most wonderful gifts god gave to her and he expects her to uphold her duty as a mother not to call you names.I wish you luck and will pray for both of you.god bless
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (10 November 2010):
 Well I would not listen to a word your friends seem to spray out without a thought. My sister and my mother are like best friends and a lot of my other female friends are quite close to their mothers so I have absolutely no idea what your friends are talking about.
Sit down and talk to your mother as her daughter and not her enemy. Let her know that you are hurt by her words and that you need her as your mother. Give her a hug and tell her that you are sorry if you are not living up to her expectations, tell her that you are trying your best and sometimes, what she expects from you simply is not who you are. Listen to her, what does she want from you? Try to understand each other and talk through it, tell her that you do not need to fight anymore, if she is disappointed in you, you can only try your best because you are trying to please her. She is your mother, she is supposed to be there for you.
I hope that helps.
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