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writes:hw can i make my boyfriend cum without oral or actual sex? I wanna give him maximum pleasure but we dont wanna have sex be4 marriage and i dont feel comfortable with oral, any ideas on making him cum? or giving him pleasure? Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2008): if you both can control yourselves, you both get naked, let him lie on his back and you sit on top of him and rub your clit and the lips of your vagina up and down his penis, just lay his penis on his lower ab, to avoid insertion, my wife(virgin) and i did that to take us till we got married, its very steamy, will give both of you orgasms.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2008): if you both can control yourselves, you both get naked, let him lie on his back and you sit on top of him and rub your clit and the lips of your vagina up and down his penis, just lay his penis on his lower ab, to avoid insertion, my wife(virgin) and i did that to take us till we got married, its very steamy, will give both of you orgasms.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2008): I have never quite understood waiting to have sex until marriage, sex is a huge part of a relationship. I know many that do wait, but it wasn't my choice. As far as pleasing your boyfriend without actual intercourse, there is oral sex, handjobs, using your breasts like a handjob, but if you are opposed to oral sex then there is handjobs, breast handjobs, and just grinding and rubbing on each other. Its going to take a guy a while to cum regardless, but without a heightened sense of excitement, handjobs get boring and your hands get tired, using you breasts is okay for a while then that gets boring and the friction becomes an annoyance, if he is stimulating you, and you are stimulating him then things tend to get heated and sex is hard to say no to. Its all in what you are comfortable with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2008): I am in a similar situation - I've only begun my sexual exploration, and would like to pleasure him so it's not one-sided fun. However, I'm not quite at the stage of oral and certaintly not ready for intercourse (although not opposed). My bf simply stated that he'd just rather not me do anything unless we have sex because he is hard to cum and it's painful if he doesn't (blue balls). But he enjoys pleasuring me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2007): first get him errect use alot of baby oil or something of the sort put your hands togather interlocking your fingers slide the head of his penis between your hands then squeeze your hands togather firmly but not to hard at the head of his penis letting it slde downwards but not out of your hands continue to do that or you can mix it up put your hands togather like you you are trying to spin a peice of wood to start a fire and move you hands up and down his penis while you are rubbing them back and forth also you can give a basic hand job while rubbing the other hand in a circular motion around the head of his penis dont do it solw though because it will make him pee instead of become aroused or you can put one hand open in the shape of an L and the other hand in the shape of a vuseing your middle and index fingers put your middle and index fingers around the corner of your L tilt you L hand down so you are rubbing the shaft and the head of his penis with the flat of your palm also you can do like you are useing a screw driver twisting with both hands on his penis twist and move your hands up and down really it depends on how sensitive he is which he will like best and always remember to use alot of lubrication and if you think its to much it usually isnt enough
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2007): bigbigIf you want to give great handjob use both of your hands. Concentrate mainly on the head of the penis because that's where all the main nerve endings are. Use your hands like you're holding a baseball bat and twist and squeeze and move up and down the penis simultaneously. Make sure you use some kind of lubricant though./big/big
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reader, JohnR  +, writes (10 December 2007):
 I think it's great you are waiting for marriage. My wife waited until we were married to have sex (she did do oral on me and 2 other guys before me).
You can satify him using either baby oil, or massage oil and give him great handjobs. If you are really into it and enjoy his body, this can be a great start to your sexual relationship until you are married (or ready to go all the way). Don't just pull down his pants/underwear and start stroking, make it special, let him know you love him and his body. Strip him naked and massage him all over except his penis for a while, then start stroking him, I guarantee that he will enjoy this greatly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2007): do what ever you feel ok with he may want oral but if you dont want 2 then dont he won't mind (if he really loves u)
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2007): well what you can do is play some music dance with him and then dont let him enter into you but stay on the surface.by leting him rubb up and down on your underwear it will make him and you cum without sexual intercourse
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2007): While u give him an hand job tlk reli dirrty 2 him say stuff like ' oh baby i want you to cum all ova me n im gna swallow every last drop' dat usualy works 4 me lol give it try no harm:P lol hope dat help xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2007): i have the same problem, i'm almost 17 and i want to wait tile i'm 18 to have sex with my boyfriend, nothing i do will make him cum, i swear i've tried almost everything to make him cum. if you dont want to do oral then the only thing to really do is just a handjob which will get boring and most likely not result in him doing anything. there's nothing wrong with oral, its completely fine if you want to wait before having sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2007): try giving a two handed hand job with some lube then move on to kissing it then try some think caled clittage where you rub your clit down his shaft its quite good for plesure for you and men love it also try both of you giving him a hand job jus be sure to not get carred away if you do not want sex before marrige or jus hurry up and get married lol x
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reader, pantelis0383 +, writes (30 June 2007):
have sex...you have to experience the emotions created by sexand then get married...if not, many things can happen in the future
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2007): i am always intrigued by people who don't want to have sex before marriage, i am not questioning that belief or saying its wrong but i think sex is a strong foundation of a relationship and you shouldn't hold back from doing anything you want to, on the other hand i believe you can be pleasured just as well having 'clothed sex' anyway as long as your happy then nothing can go wrong _Judas_
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2007): The best thing ive found so far (my bf loves it!!) is giving him a "massage" down there, using lots of baby oil. U can make it really exciting and start with a regular body massage and tease him till hes really excited..and remember lots of oil...
Just one thing, baby oil works a treat and its cheap, but make sure its hypoallergenic and unscented... cuz the skn down there is really sensitive!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2007): HI all sexual pleasure for us men starts in our head, then moves down to our other head of our penis, or glans of penis. It is here that all male orgasms are induced, by intercourse, or outercourse,which can be hand-jobs or oral-sex. Being as you have ruled out intercourse and oral-sex, Guess, You have somewhat limited youself to that old standby, Masturbation, which is fine, However is it enough for him?
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reader, Suzie767 +, writes (31 May 2007):
 i agree with love-him, you are quite limited in this respect.
the only other things i can think of is if you both maturbate together or you could give him a 'hand job' with your breasts
it really does depend on what you are both comfortable with though
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you - yeh iv givin him hand jobs buh ure ryt it takes tym for him to cum i kno he'd lik me to giv him oral (e hasnt sed buh i kno..) buh ryt nw im nt too sure if im comfotbl with tht thnk u 4ur advic tho xxx
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reader, love-him +, writes (31 May 2007):
 unless you are happy with giving him a 'hand job' then i dont realy think there is a way to make him cum without actualy touching his penis..you can toss him off without sucking him but it will take quite some time for him to cum.. sorry babe thats all i can suggest =S mail me if u wana talk x x x
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