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writes: i really like this girl in my year. i've never talked to her. i want to know her and meet her not necessary on a date but just to know each other as friends. any ideas without givin away i like her. she is really pretty and out of my league as i'm no where as good looking. any ideas? thanks. were both 16 Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2007): People like to talk about themselves. Start by asking her some questions about herself, like what she likes to do, what are her hobbies, what she thinks about certain subjects, and your role is to mostly listen and reflect back to her what she is saying to you. Don't make judgements just reflect in your own words what she just told you, sort of like doing a book report or putting a different spin on what she just said. This will make her feel like you really listened (which you did) that you heard her and that you understand her....she will learn to like, trust and respect you if you demand her respect and show her that you can be trusted with what she reveals to you....this will make her a bit dependent on your friendship, and if you want to then move it to a more romantic level then you can do that by asking her out for a fun activity....just remember to be a friend first and always a gentleman! Girls may like to crush on the bad boys, but they will always respond to a great decent guy who wins them over with respect and friendship first.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (23 February 2007):
No one is 'out of your league'. Don't tell yourself such negative comments because it wont give you anymore confidence. You could be pretty suprised about what she may think of you. She could very well think you are good looking despite what you think about yourself. Lots of relaly good looking people dont have confidence in themself and think they aren't that great, but in actual fact they are. So you could be just like that.
You could just go up to her and say hey hows it going. Or maybe 'accidently' bump into her and say sorry and then start up a convo from there. Or if you have some of the same classes ask her something to do with the work you're doing.
goodluck and remember, you are good enough for anyone you want to be with. im sure you have alot of really great qualities :)
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