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22-25,
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writes:Hi I'm 18 this year and there's this guy who I'm really interested in at work. We're kinda friends and flirt and stuff. Not only have I got feelings for him but I'm so sexually attracted to him I sometimes can't think straight. He's a touchy kinda guy and from what I've gathered it's mainly with me but I could be wrong I don't know. He finds every excuse to touch me just "casually", especially when he's trying to get past me or trying to get something. He'll like hold my hips with both hands and gently move me/shove to the side so he can get past. He'll just smirk or something obviously being flirty. We just laugh about that kinda stuff but I don't think he realises the affect he has on me. Just when he does simple stuff like moving me out of the way my mind goes places and it feels good. Really good. Fwi there's no policy against anything happening between colleagues; I know couples where both work even on the same shift etc. Everybody we work with already believe something is going on between us because of the extent of our flirting etc, but again we just laugh about it. Other than what I've said, there are more genuine signs to suggest that he actually likes me and that the way he is with me is just his way of flirting but idk. That's why I won't go any further than flirting at the minute although I want to. He turns me on like crazy but I have a promise with myself that I won't make any silly mistakes with a guy (which I nearly did last year). I'm still a virgin and I'm trying so hard to remain one until I actually know where I stand with any guy I'm talking to or whatever. Especially this guy. I'm so attracted to this guy that just talking to/hugging etc makes me wanna have sex with him. Even when we're just having a genuine conversation about our lives,our future plans, our studies etc. He still manages to turn me on just by the way he looks at me. A deep glare where he just focuses on me and what I'm saying.My question basically is how I can get over this 'sexual frustration' without making any choices I may regret. Maybe I should just stop caring for a while and just go for whatever we have and where it may or may not go...
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (24 January 2017):
 It is normal to have these feelings at your age. But am glad you seem to know not to jump in to bed with a guy. You need to just learn to deal with your frustration while at work and sort it once you get home with some self love. However you should tone down the flirting at work, it may not be frowned upon but people will form their opinions off you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2017): Just about every teenage boy who isn't a rapist deals with constant sexual frustration. Day in, day out, for years on end.
This is normal. It's part of life. Part of being a mature adult is controlling these urges when its not the proper time.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (22 January 2017):
 You're a hormonal teenager flirting at work - which is very unprofessional. I'd suggest you avoid that, so you don't get fired or a bad reference for a future job.
As for your sexual frustration, masturbate, don't have sex with anyone yet - especially outside of a proper relationship.
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