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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2007): you cant live like that if ure new love is the one you luv u shud let them no nt live in denial thats nt right 2 be like that u shouldnt have to be focus on the future nt the past best of luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2007): Think about the alternative when the new bf is not around. Being alone and back on the market. How does that feel? Should feel terrible and scary. If it does, then you have your answer and should know what to do. Will you do this once and it'll be over? HELL NO! Do it every time you feel this way until it disapears. How long will it take? No one can answer that for you.
If it doesn't then it may not be you that is the problem and you are just searching for reasons to get away from him because he doesn't fit your profile...
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone for your help you are all right!!!
will see how we go think i will keep everything crossed
Thanks again
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reader, ariel  +, writes (3 February 2007):
 Hi Anon
Don't be afraid,its understandable that you fear him running off with one of your friends because betrayal is an awful pain that you don't ever want to feel again.But if you want your relationship to be happy and fulfilled you must stop thinking of things that could shatter your happiness.He is in your relationship because he wants to be there and loves you.When these negative thoughts come into your head you must stop them in there tracks.He is NOT your ex.Say to yourself "he is not mr X"
The relationship with your new man can be fantastic if you only let it.Trust him and love him.Good luck
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reader, cd206 + ♥, writes (3 February 2007):
 There's no instant solution. Really, all you can do is let your new man build up your trust slowly.
CD
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (3 February 2007):
 Obviously your husband of eight years cheating on you with a friend has affected your confidence and self esteem, and its natural to be cautious in future relationships.
Stop focusing on the negative aspect of this new relationship, and start to focus on the positive things that this new love brings.
Good luck x
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