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How can I get over him when we just had a baby together?

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Question - (11 January 2012) 2 Answers - (Newest, 15 January 2012)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

i'm going to try and make this as short as possible.

me and my boyfriend have been dating over a year we have a 5 month old daughter together. he broke up with me today cause he said now is the time he don't want a relationship, i asked him why he broke up with me and he said because i was not happy and i had alot of problems with the relationship that he could not fix.. what the problem was is i barley get to see him anymore cause he don't stay the night anymore through the week cause he said he needed to focus on school so he can graduate. okay everyday he see's his friend at school and then on his days off work he hangs out with his friend all day. then comes to see me at like 10 or something and then don't stay real long on weekends he gets off work at 6pm he hangs out with his friend then comes see me really late. and that's what was bugging me. how can i get over him when we have a baby together and the thought of him being with someone else just hurts me more.

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (15 January 2012):

aunt honesty agony auntWas this baby planned? My guess is that the baby was not planned for him and he felt trapped so instead of stepping up to his responsibility he chickened out and kept his distance, now he is afraid of settling down so he has broken things off with you. You deserve better than this, and yes it is hard on you and a terrible thing to go through.

It is hard to deal with the fact that you are going to be a single parent now, but at least your child has one parent who is there for them, that is all that they need. So you need to stay strong for them. It is going to take some time for you to accept your relationship is over and that you are now a single mother but that is what you are now and you need to concentrate on being the best you can for her and forgetting about this waste of space who does not care about you. In time you will begin to feel better, but for now just keep yourself busy being a mum and also try and get out and enjoy yourself with friends.

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A female reader, Emily20 Nigeria +, writes (11 January 2012):

Emily20 agony auntMy dear,you just have to move on,if not for you,then for your baby,she needs you right now,let me tell you something what is meant to be will be,no matter what,so dont be afraid,just hold on to your baby,show her your smile,let her know you be there no matter what,everything happens for a reason,take courage,and realise that these world sometimes makes us crazy,but you have to shine through it and show it your true colours ok,let no man break you,you still have good things ahead of you,just believe in yourself,and ur baby, you can move on with or without him,just be patience everything will be cool.goodluck

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